Dear WISY,
I have a confession and I really just want to know if there is anyone else who does this. I come from a country where we have carnival celebrations every year and it seems as if a fever overtakes my body when the new music is released and the sexy costumes are displayed. What I'm trying to say is; I always cheat on my man during carnival. I don't know what it is about carnival that just makes me want to let loose and act on my desires.
I have no conscience during carnival. My cousins who are christian always say carnival is the devil's playground and I'm beginning to believe it. I don't know what it is. It just amazes me that it is the same scenario for me year after year. I met my first love during carnival. Could that be the reason? I don't know.
Is there anyone else who does this or feels the same way I do?
Signed,
Carnival Seductress
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Dear WISY,
I've been trying to push my music in the soca scene for a while now and it seems the harder I work, the less I accomplish. I'm from an island that is dancehall dominated and and I swear every time I tell someone I sing soca, they tell me I was born on the wrong island. Since when does geographic location determine what sort of music you should sing?
I really want to break the stereotype and prove everyone wrong, but there is absolutely no support for a soca artist in this country.
I would appreciate it if some of your readers could leave some advice for me. They don't have to be in the same situation either. I just want to know how to proceed with soca.
Thank you.
Signed,
I am Soca
Dear WISY,
Two carnival seasons ago I was promised a shot at debuting as a soca artist. The guy who promised me everything began to trouble me and eventually we started sleeping together. I might be ridiculed for this but I only slept with him because I didn't want him to get angry and take back the opportunity. I consistently slept with him and we even began having sex without protection. I got pregnant and he told me I could kiss my dreams goodbye. He told me no mother of his child would be allowed on stage wining up and having men lust after her. My heart sunk and I began to hate the child inside me for robbing me of the opportunity to be a soca artist. He watched me closely and made sure I didn't try to get an abortion behind his back.
Slowly I began to love the child growing in my belly. I accepted that my role would be that of a mother for now but always planned to continue on a path to my dreams. I had my baby and I left the man. I am now seeing a close friend of his who also has ties to the industry. People are telling him that I am just an opportunist but I actually love him.
He is beginning to crack under all the pressure and he wants me to forget about my dreams and marry him and be a house wife. I'm really beginning to think that is my role in life because twice I've been with someone who could help me but both want me to do the same thing. Should I give up?
Signed,
The Soca Housewife
