Dear WISY,
I need advice on the terrible relationship I’ve had for 2 years now. Long story short, throughout these 2 years I have never received a birthday present, went out on a date, and he never opened up to me even though, I opened up to him. I gave him my all; down to my last $20, supported him through tough times and all I got in return was hurt, hateful words, no understanding from him, pitiful 'I love yous', and a reminder that I was never his first priority. I held on because I love too much and I'm a very emotional person on the inside but I've learned my lesson. I got myself into this by trying to be positive and give love knowing he was a broken person and I wasn’t going to receive any love like the one I gave him back.
Side note: we are not together anymore. I stopped answering his texts, so he blocked me on everything. It's very hard trying to get over this. What do I do?
Sincerely,
Anonymous
First, I'm glad to hear you are no longer involved in that relationship. It sounds horrible and I know it must have been emotionally draining and damaging. Now, it's time for you to heal from two years of hurt and pain so that you do not repeat this cycle in your next relationship.
You have already proven that you have great character by consciously trying to see the best in someone who is toxic. But I know that you now realize that he was not worth you losing your own happiness, value, and sanity over. No one is or will ever be worth that.
It's time to love on yourself like you never have before. Really delve into your soul and reconnect with or discover the things that make you whole. Do things that will build you up emotionally and psychologically. Surround yourself with people who are going to be a positive influence. Take yourself out on dates, do the things you love, travel, read new books - empower yourself.
You will have difficult periods throughout this, but those difficult times will decrease until they no longer exist. Just allow yourself to ride through all the emotions. It's the only way to get it all out and truly heal. Just know that the pain and hurt is temporary as long as you make an effort to move through it all honestly and heal.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
