I Love My Brother In Law

Dear WISY,

I have a confession to make.  I have been holding it for years and I can't take it anymore.  I find my sister's husband irresistible and I have been having an affair with him since before they were married.  I was with him on the eve of their wedding and he told me he loved me and told me that when he was saying his vows to my sister that he meant them for me too.

I know he loves me.  I can see it in his eyes when he tells me that he really wants to be with me.   When he sees me three times a week after his basketball games I can see it's hard for him to leave my side but I tell him he has to go.  I'm tired of telling him he has to go.  I want him to stay.  I don't have eyes for any other man and he is amazing in bed.  I want him so bad.  It sounds terrible but it's true.  I believe he is for me and I am for him.

I told him I'm going to tell my sister and he told me he is ready for the consequences of our actions.  I know my family will be upset with me but I don't care.  I love him too much.  I just don't want to regret it down the line.  I'm coming to you for your opinion to make my final decision.

Thanks,
I Love My Brother In Law

Dear ILMBIL,

I absolutely think you should tell your sister of your deceitful actions and take the back lash without protest.  I don't understand why you chose to have an affair with your sister's man when there are so many single men walking this earth.  You both should be ashamed of yourselves.  

I don't really have much more to say on this.  Tell her and prepare for karma.

Walk good,
#TeamWISY


     

Two's Company, Three's a Crowd

Dear WISY,

I need your opinion on a situation with my man.  We have a great sex life and we have a lot of fun together but every time we go out and he gets a few drinks in him, he asks me to have a threesome.  He'll say things like:  "Babe, wouldn't you want to see me do it to another chick?" or "Babe, we could make her do whatever we want her to do.  You'll like it too!"

I thought I was open to the idea but when I really think about it, I'm not sure that's the kind of activity I want to engage in.  I would tell him this but I am afraid he will be disappointed in my decision and look for a threesome without me.

I really love my man.  He's the master of love making and I don't know if I could be this satisfied by another guy but I'm not okay with the threesome thing.  On the other hand, I don't want to lose him.  What do I do?

Signed,
Just Us

Dear Just Us,

It's always best to be open and honest with your partner so go ahead and tell him how you feel about threesomes.  If he values your relationship then he'll give it a rest.  If he decides to look for a threesome elsewhere then let him go.  You will find someone else who is more compatible with your sexual preferences.

It seems this is something he really wants so also keep in mind that if he doesn't go looking elsewhere, he may try to re-introduce you to the idea again in the future.  

Walk good,
#TeamWISY

  

100+ Men and Still Not Satisfied

Dear WISY,

I'm a very experienced woman and I don't have any problem sleeping with who I want when I want.  The problem is, nine times out of ten, I am not satisfied by these men so I move from man to man looking for satisfaction.  I'm not ashamed of myself at all.  The problem is not me, it's the men who don't have the first clue as to how women need to be loved in order to climax.

Lately, I have been seeing a guy who is just too handsome to describe in words.  The sight of his body is all I need to get me going but the same problem occurs with him as well; he has no idea how to satisfy me.  It makes me wonder how many women go through life unsatisfied by men.  I've slept with at least 100 men and only a handful have satisfied me, so that means women aren't speaking out about being dissatisfied but, I digress.  I really want things to go far with this new guy.  I need some ideas as to what I can do to get him to hit it right!

Signed,
Experienced

WISY's Response:

Dear Experienced,

I suggest you simply talk to your new guy about your likes and dislikes.  You may need to just coach and guide him through your encounters so he learns how to get you to the finish line.  I don't know why you didn't do this sooner instead of sleeping with 100+ men in efforts to find satisfaction.

Walk good,
#TeamWISY

X-out My Ex!

Dear WISY,

I need help with my ex girlfriend.  She is not ready to let go of me and I don't want her anymore.  She has been calling my cell phone non-stop and has even called my mother to try to get her to talk me into taking her back.  I don't want her anymore because she cheated on me with a woman and a some men too.  She is nasty and I can't put myself in the middle of so much drama.

She keeps calling me and telling me she is going to kill herself if I don't take her back and the worst part is she has been harassing my new woman.  Every time she sees her out by herself, she wants to beat her.  My new woman is soft and she is not into all of that.

What can I do to get rid of her?

Signed,

X-out My Ex

WISY's Response:

Dear X-out,

Have you made it clear that you are over her?  Your letter is lacking the action you have taken with her to ensure that she fully understands (some people need you to be blunt with them in order for them to get it).  Either way, this girl seems to have dangerous behavioral tendencies.  I recommend making a report to the police if she doesn't stop harassing you, your mother or your girlfriend.  A restraining order may not be such a bad idea either.  Be careful.

Walk good,

#TeamWISY