1, 2, 3 Belly!

Dear WISY,

I got myself into a serious situation.  Matter of fact, most guys I know would boast about this situation but I don’t like stress and drama.  I wish I could just run away from this but I know that’s not an option.  I am mature enough to know I have to face the music.

I have three girls pregnant at the same time.  One is my bonafide woman who I live with and who my family knows and respects.  One is a girl I met about six months ago.  I didn’t really want her but she insisted on me giving her the goods and I never expected it to be such good stuff if you know what I mean and the other one is a girl I call when I want a quick thing with no questions asked.  She just opens shop and lets me shop until I drop.  But now, all of them are a few months pregnant.  HOW????

I don’t know how I’m going to explain this one.  I know my bonafide is going to skin me alive and the other two will probably create problems out of spite.  I tried to convince them to get rid of it but they are stubborn and they are not thinking about the future. 

Please, I need some advice quick!  Make matters worse, I just lost my job!

Signed,

Mr. Three’s Company

Where is the Love?

Dear WISY,

I don't know if I should blame the state of the world right now but I find people to be extremely mean and extremely insensitive. Everyone is out to benefit themselves and no one cares for the other anymore. 

I was so shocked by an incident the other day. I was at the cashier in the grocery store and I was short five cents - FIVE CENTS! I asked the lady behind me if she had change and she looked at me as if I had asked her for her kidney. She then went on to grumble under her breath about broke people and how broke people expect "freebs" all the time. I then went into my purse and pulled out a $50.00 and told the cashier I was sorry I didn't have anything smaller. I turned and looked at the woman who had nothing else to say. 

I don't know maybe I'm overreacting but I find people on a whole to be so detached from each other. It's such a shame.

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Infertility Issues

Dear WISY, 

A few months ago I got some disturbing news and I'’ve been trying to share it with my husband but I'’m afraid he will not love me anymore. I am unable to have children and I know how badly he wants to have kids. We have been trying for almost a year now and a few months ago I finally decided to get checked. The results were devastating and I don’t know how to tell my husband. I know there are options but we cannot afford that route. 

Please tell me what I should do. I am so afraid that he will leave me because of this. 

Signed,
Devastated & Scared

Quick Question...Rich or Poor?

Dear WISY,

I have an old rich man and a young bruk pocket man.  I care for them the same but I am tired of having two men. Who should I pick?

Signed,
Rich or Poor

Educated & Liberated

Dear WISY,

I am almost finished with college and my parents are expecting me to marry someone who I don’t want to marry.  I am not from a culture that arranges marriages but my parents feel I owe it to this man to marry him.

I grew up in poverty and when I turned fifteen this man took special interest in me and started to help support my family.  He helped my father fix the holes in our house roof and build back up the fence.  He added an extension to the house so we could have an indoor bathroom and kitchen.  He has even paid my entire college tuition for all four years.  At the time I thought he was just a good friend of the family but when I went off to college he expressed how he really felt about me. 

I discovered that he was doing all those things because he wanted my family to accept him and persuade me to be with him even though he’s a bit older than me.  I have always been obedient and I have always wanted to please my parents and ease their stress, so I went along with the program.  But, now that I’m educated and I’ve been exposed to the world and its endless possibilities, I see no need for me to give myself to this man.  I don’t want to be perceived as ungrateful but on the other hand I don’t want to be trapped in a life of misery.  I guess I could make myself content with being with him but I may always have that "what if" thought in the back of my mind.  

Is it worth the discomfort of my family to go about my business and make my own life?  I love them so much and the thought of them falling back into poverty brings tears to my eyes.

What would you do?

Signed,

Educated & Liberated

Concerned Friend

Dear WISY,

A friend of mine is going down the wrong path and I am trying to help her see that what she is doing will eventually bite her in the ass but she responds by saying that I am a party pooper and that I am probably jealous of her.  I consider us to be good friends but for some reason she feels I am out to stop her from "living HER life" as she would put it.

She has done a lot but the latest thing she has done is allow multiple men sleep with her at the same time.  She said that she has always wanted to do it and now she can look back and say she did.  Now, I fear that word will get around about what she did and people will start to insult her and I know she will be hurt by it and that will hurt me.  

I don’t know how to stop her from straying down this path, so please give me any advice you have for this situation.

Signed,

Concerned Friend