Dear WISY,
I date a guy who is very popular on my island. He is a part of a sound. If you don’t know what that is, it’s like a group of guys who play music at parties and have sound systems with speakers and sometimes they clash each other to see who has the best music. A little more complicated than that but you get the idea. Those kind of guys are very popular and the girls go mad over them. I knew that before I started dealing with him and I still went ahead and did my thing.
I don’t mind the fact that girls are crazy for him but I do mind that he is doing things with them and getting them pregnant. This nasty girl sent me a message on FB with a picture of their supposed baby. I showed him the picture and he said he doesn’t know the girl or the baby.
For some reason, I didn’t believe him. Why would this girl send me a message and go as far as to attach a baby picture if he wasn’t the father? I messaged her back although he told me to block her and asked for her number. She sent it right away. When I called she was cool and very sad. She said he knows he got her pregnant and has been ignoring her. She just wants his help and doesn’t want a relationship. I took it a step further and asked if I could visit her. She agreed.
I visited her and the baby and I fell in love with that child. He was the spitting image of my boyfriend and he couldn’t deny him. I went out and brought back some pampers and baby food and told her I would help her even if my boyfriend didn’t want to. The child was just too special to ignore.
My man was very upset with me and I explained to him that it didn’t matter if it was his or not. I would love that baby even if I had met him under different circumstances. I just feel a connection with the child and I can’t explain why but I won’t question or fight the feeling.
He has since left me and come back. He is shocked at my behaviour and he said that he needed to see this baby that I love so much. So I took him with me when I went to take some stuff to the mother. The girl cried when she saw him and told him that she didn’t want him but didn’t want him to ignore their child. He then admitted that he did sleep with her and he would like a paternity test just to be sure the little boy is his.
Since all of that, we have all been in contact with each other and giving the baby the love and care he deserves. My friends say I am crazy and that they would have left him for doing what he did but it’s just something I can’t explain. Children are innocent and love conquers all.
I just want to tell these women out here who use their children as revenge and treat them bad because of what their father did to the mother that it’s not the child’s fault. Raise them with love so that they understand what it is to love and be loved and therefore won’t repeat the cycle of broken relationships.
I don’t think I’m crazy, do you?
Signed,
In Love with Baby Boy
Dear ILWBB:
ReplyDeleteThis is a very rare situation. Some may even call it strange but I commend you for recognizing the baby’s needs and helping to provide for him. Your actions caused the father to acknowledge and ultimately be a part of his son’s life. Many women are unable to look past the infidelity and see the blessing of a new life. Kudos to you!
Now, I don’t want you ignoring the fact that your man is a cheater and I certainly don’t want you accepting it. You seem like a sensible woman with lots of love to give. If your boyfriend is not willing to have an exclusive relationship with you, I suggest you move on to someone who is worthy of your undeniably good heart.
Again, I commend you for looking out for “Baby Boy” and I hope you continue. Just don’t forget to look out for YOURSELF along the way.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
no wayyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!! girl u come from a different breed of woman. No way in hell would i take care of a child my man cheating on me and got. suppose it was a std instead of child that he gave you? what would you do then? no way! wisy u shouldn't commend her, u should send her to crazy ppl doctor! i know kids are innocent but no, no, no! she letting him know it's ok to cheat!
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ReplyDeleteI like this lady. She has a good head on her body. Her priority list is in order. I don't believe that cheating is a "deal breaker" anymore. A lot of men and woman cheat with their loins and not their heart. Sex is becoming like a cocktail drink.... we drink it because it taste good. We cheat because sex feel good...but please try to be careful, safe and responsible about it. Most girls would have attacked the mother and call her every nasty name in the book, but not you. You're an angel, and you will inspire many.
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