Dear WISY,
Lately, I’ve been so sad and depressed. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t know what it is but my boyfriend has changed drastically on me. We share the same interests and have always enjoyed doing things together but for the past month or so, it’s been hell in my home. He ignores me, he’s out all night, he sleeps in the guest room and he has put a lock on his phone, tablet and laptop.
We’re supposed to be planning our wedding but it looks like I should be planning to move out and be on my own. I’ve tried talking to him about it and he assures me that we are fine but it’s obvious that things are not good.
What really prompted me to write this letter is what happened last night. Last night I stayed up and listened for the door. It was around 3:00 AM and I’m usually asleep. He was talking on the phone but I couldn’t make out what he was saying. He went into the bathroom and then peeked in our room to see if I was asleep. I pretended I was. He left and went into the guest room. After a few minutes, I crept over to the guest room door and I could hear him talking to someone. I suspected he was video chatting with them because he was telling the person to bend over and pose and show him areas of the body that I am too embarrassed to type. He was enjoying it a lot and I couldn’t stand it anymore. I opened the door and confronted him.
I could see that it was another woman on the screen and I’m pretty sure it was my cousin but she ended the session on her end before I could get a good look and he closed his laptop. I asked who it was and he kept telling me to go back to bed. He was irritated and said that we would talk in the morning. He pushed me out of the room and I went back to bed, heartbroken.
This morning when I got up, he was already gone. I called his phone but he didn’t answer. I emailed him, texted him, I left voice messages but he didn’t respond to any.
Should I give up and tear myself away from him? What about my cousin? Should I ask her if that was her on the screen?
I need some support. I am so broken up over this. The feeling I have is unbearable. What should I do???
Signed,
Broken Up