I met a girl I like a lot. She is the first girl to make me feel like a guy. I'm a trans man and before this, I always felt like the girls I dated saw me as a stud and not a dude. I am a man. There's nothing feminine about me. I haven't had my final procedure done but you wouldn't know it by looking at me.
But anyway, back to the girl who has my heart 🥰. She and I have been talking non stop. She knows I'm trans but she's telling me that she's nervous about us being together. She wants to get intimate but she has never been with a trans man before. I told her I'm no different from any other man she's been with, but she's still nervous.
I want to show her that she has nothing to worry about. She deserves to be treated like a queen and I can do that for her...in every way possible. She just needs to let me in. What can I do to make her more comfortable? I'm patient but I also have needs lol.
What do you think?
Signed,
A Real Man
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WISY's Response:
Dear RM,
As with any other relationship, you have to be patient and allow your partner the time to become comfortable enough to become intimate with you. Hear her out. Listen to her concerns, spend time reassuring her, and be honest and give her an idea of what she should expect. The latter is probably most important since you've stated that you haven't had your final procedure yet. Be transparent about that part and give her the time to process what you've told her.
It's obvious that she has feelings for you and you are smitten as well. Don't ruin it by trying to rush intimacy.
I hope this helps.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
