I'm in a situation that I'm ashamed to talk about with my friends. I need some help deciding what to do.
I am a college graduate and the eldest girl in my family. I was doing very well until I was forced to resign from my job because of inappropriate relations with a VP. He wasn't asked to leave but I was. Very unfair and sexist, if you ask me. I feel I can't talk about it because I will embarrass myself. We had a great connection. I believe that if we were in different circumstances, we would be a couple.
Since losing my job, I've fallen on hard times. I am planning to move back in with my parents, but I haven't told any of my friends. Only my parents know. I don't plan to be there long. In the meantime, I asked my lover (the VP) to help me out with a small loan. He told me he couldn't see me anymore and was definitely not going to help me. He said I almost ruined his life. Mind you, he was the one who pursued me.
I feel so hurt by the entire situation. I don't know where to turn from here. Like I said before, I haven't spoken to my friends because I'm too embarrassed. I'm giving up my condo to cut costs but I have a million other expenses to maintain. What do you think I should do to generate income soon?
Signed,
Embarrassed
WISY's Advice:
Dear Embarrassed,
Put all that false pride in your pocket. There is no shame in moving back home with your parents. In fact, more and more young adults are opting to move back home to save money. It's smart, practical, and can beneficial to all parties.
Ever hear the saying "a closed mouth doesn't get fed"? You could be missing out on some opportunities by withholding your situation from everyone. If you fear ridicule from your friends then you may not have true friends in your circle. Think about who genuinely cares and open up. You need some moral support right now.
Now, on to this VP guy. This situation screams "law suit"! Hire a good lawyer and expose this company for what they did to you. Hey, sometimes our human nature gets the best of us and we give in to temptation. No one was hurt, and no crimes were committed, but if this type of relationship is against company policy, then that VP should've been asked to leave as well. You have rights. Exercise them! I hope he is taught a valuable lesson. He deserves to experience a little discomfort, especially after what he did to you. Ugh.
Pick yourself up, get your resume out there, and keep it moving! When you land your next gig, start saving. You never know what life will throw at you. Oh yea, and adhere to company policy. 😉
Walk good,
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