Dear WISY,
What I can do to help my boyfriend get better in bed? He is just too hyper. I want him to slow down and calm down. I told him and despite what I say he still behaves the same. He talks so much that it's hard for me to relax and get in the zone. All of his world wind excitement lasts just about three minutes and then I'm left to stare at the ceiling.
Is this reason to break it off with someone? Everything else is fine but I just can't deal with the bedroom antics anymore.
Signed,
Ceiling Gazer
Dear WISY,
I'm in a situation that I wish I could erase but it's a reality that stares me in the face daily. I am married to a successful man. We have been happily married for seven years and he came to me at a low point in my life and uplifted me. He made me feel as though I was worth something again. He met me at the bus station where I was waiting for a bus back to my town because my fiance had cheated with another woman, got her pregnant and was being forced to marry her. The other girl's family pressured me to leave town and I did.
M husband saw me sitting there as he waited for his bus back to school. He bought me something to eat and drink and left me with his phone number and asked me to call him whenever I felt like it. I didn't even pay him much attention because my heart was open to only one man. I called him a couple of weeks later and he invited me to come visit him and I did. He was like a breath of fresh air and we eventually got married.
I can honestly say that my heart has never fully repaired and my ex still holds a very significant piece of it. I wish that wasn't the case but it's true that we can't help who we love. Which is why when I saw him last week, my heart jumped for joy and I felt like there was electricity running through my body. His excitement was equal to mine and we embraced in the market as if I was a single woman. He told me he had come to look for me and how he regretted not standing up for me. He wants me back and I was ready to run off with him.
I told him I was now married and he began to cry. He asked me to divorce my husband and I am really considering it. I know it is unfair but what can you do when your heart is tugging so hard?
I need to know what should be done.
Signed,
Lost Love
Dear WISY,
I need some advice concerning my boyfriend and his best friend. My boyfriend's best friend is a girl and at first I was okay with it when he described her as "one of the boys". Then I met her and was blown away by her appearance. She is curvy and has a gorgeous face! She is what I thought every man would want and I can't help but think that my boyfriend wants her too. To make matters worse, she has a great personality. She's perfect and I feel threatened by her. I can't help but think that one day she will run crying to him about something and he will comfort her and one thing will lead to another and then the next thing you know, they'll end up having sex. The thought of that kills me inside.
I don't want to come off as an insecure girlfriend but I am very worried. I want to say something to him but don't know how to start. What should I say?
Signed,
Jealous
Dear WISY,
I have a bad reputation for jumping from guy to guy and everyone assumes it's because I'm promiscuous. In fact, I am a virgin and every guy I talk to wants me to have sex and I'm just not ready yet. That's why I end relationships quickly. The problem is the new guy also believes I'm promiscuous and thinks I will have sex right away. When I tell them I'm not ready they get angry and say I'm lying.
I'm not sure what I should do. I love being in a relationship but I'm not ready to have sex yet.
Signed,
Jumpy Virgin
Dear WISY,
I've been dating this guy for about four months now and when I met him he was a humble guy. I couldn't get over how humble he was because he was drop dead gorgeous.
I met him while on vacation and I fell in love with him within the week that I visited his island. He showed me all the spots that tourists don't get to see and he made my nights unforgettable. I fell hard for him really fast. I was hopeless and there was no way of rescuing me from his seductive arms.
After I left, I began sending him money on a weekly basis because his living conditions were less than ideal. I've even sent him barrels filled with clothes, shoes and food. I've sent him a top of the line cell phone and other gifts to help with his low income situation.
Now, I can barely manage to reach him. When he does pick up, he doesn't have much to say. He hurries me off the phone and is short with me. I don't understand why he is treating me this way now. I've given him everything he wanted and I even considered bringing him to the UK for a vacation. He's no longer my humble, golden locked hunk of a man.
What have I done wrong? Please help!
Signed,
Hopelessly in Love
Dear WISY,
A friend of mine has a three year old child and she allows him to misbehave and even disrespect her. She doesn't discipline him and says it's just a phase he's going through. He slaps her, bites her and I've heard him curse at her too.
The other day she asked me to watch him while she ran some errands because he was just too out of control. I agreed and she dropped him off to my house. As soon as the child got there, he started pulling stuff off my shelves and running around like a wild dog! So, I grabbed him and spanked his behind. He cried and cried like if I had punched him in the face but then he went and sat quietly and watched TV. He didn't give any kind of trouble after that.
When his mother came back I told her I spanked him and how well-behaved he was after. I thought I was giving her the perfect solution for her child's behavior but she got so mad at me and told me that she was going to report me for child abuse. I told her to go ahead because what she is doing with her child is not benefiting him in any way. She hasn't spoken to me since and she has told everyone how I abused her child.
Where I grew up, kids took lashes from anybody if they were misbehaving.
Was I wrong?
Signed,
Miss Discipline
Dear WISY,
I am currently involved in a long distance relationship with a guy I met when I was 15. I'm now 32 and he is the only man I have ever been with. He decided to move away to further his studies last year. At first I was disappointed because I thought it was due time for us to get married but he assured me that it was best to wait and set himself up to provide a good life for me and our future family.
Since he has been gone, I have been hanging out with my friends to help me cope with missing him. I guess his friends have been telling him that I'm out a lot more and have been commenting on how nice I look. At first, he was okay with it but now he has become jealous and now questions my every move. He has even tried to tell me that I wasn't allowed to go out. Now, our relationship is just argument on top of argument.
The last time I went out I met a guy and I decided to dance with him. After all, it's just a dance and that can't hurt anything. I ended up dancing with him the whole night and when I was ready to leave he walked me to my car and asked to have my number. I gave it to him and we have gone out a few times since. I told him about my relationship and he is okay with that too. He said he believes we met for a reason and that what is meant to be will be. I agree.
Now, I can't get this new guy out my head. I wait anxiously for his calls and texts and I get excited when it's time to see him. I feel like a young girl again and I wish this relationship could move to the next level.
I still love my boyfriend and I don't want to lose him after all these years but this new guy has awakened something in me and I feel like he just may be worth it.
Should I leave my boyfriend for him?
Signed,
Alive Again
Dear WISY,
I have a problem. 'Problem' is probably too light of a word for me to use in this case. I have something that hinders my thoughts and actions and has taken total control of my life. I need help and I need it right away.
I am in lust with my boss. He is not my type of man at all. He is short with a very big stomach and his head his bald and he is just hideous. But my boss has very sweet words; almost like honey and sugar mixed together. He tells me things in my ear when he comes into my work area and it makes my knees buckle and my panties wet. The last time he did that I looked him in the eyes and asked him to see me later on that night. He agreed instantly and gave me the hotel information shortly after.
That night I met with him and had the best sex of my life. It was so good that I haven't been able to focus on anything else. At work, I am the one whispering to him and flirting with him. When his wife calls or visits the office I get upset. My work production has decreased and my professionalism has gone to the dogs. I cannot believe this man has such a hold on me. I cannot stop thinking about how he made my body explode with pleasure.
He has threatened to terminate my employment if I cannot get myself together. I am trying so hard to do so but all I want is some more of his sweetness. I told him I needed a dose of his medicine to get me back on track and he said he regrets the day he laid his hands on my body. That hurt me bad to say the least and I am now on a path to change his mind about me. I would just like to have him one more time and make it so that he is the one chasing me again.
My friends don't understand my obsession with him. They think he is disgusting but who feels it, knows it (wink). I dress in my best and make sure I look as sexy as possible every day but all I get is unwanted attention from the other men at work.
I just want him again and I will be satisfied. I feel like I need him in order to move on.
What should I do????
Signed,
Craving Him
Dear WISY,
How are you and your readers doing? I have a problem and I want some advice, please. I am with a guy who isn't up to par as far as size matters. When we are together I make noise and act as if I'm feeling something but I don't feel a thing most times. He thinks I am enjoying myself to the max but I am so dissatisfied. I love him and we have been through all sorts of sh*t but I can't help but think about other men and how I can be properly satisfied in bed.
Should I tell him how I'm feeling or should I just deal with it?
Thank you very much.
Signed,
Dissatisfied
