Dear WIsy,
I am a young woman in my 20s who moved to a new state with my husband about a year ago. When we first moved here, I felt very lonely and isolated. My husband could not understand why I was unable to make friends. He made friends very easily but I am not a very social person. He began to criticize my character and told me I was a drag to be with. This made me really upset and I fell into a deep depression. He continued to criticize me on a daily basis. He was only nice when he wanted to have sex. I felt used and useless.
One day, he got up and told me to get up and get dressed. He said he was taking me somewhere fun to cheer me up. I was so surprised by his mood and his kind demeanor. I became happy and hopeful that morning. He took me to his friend's house. His friend's wife was very popular and he thought a friendship with her would bring opportunities for me to meet more people.
She immediately took me by the hand and we went into another room while our husbands hung out. I don't know why but her touch made me feel so secure. I felt like she cared about me. I felt that she saw me for who I am and appreciated me. I fell in love with her. I didn't know I could develop feelings for another woman. I never had any desire before.
I began to meet up with her alone and one day I told her how I felt. She laughed and told me not to be silly. I played it off like I was joking too because of embarrassment but I really do love her. Now, when my husband and I have sex, I think about her. It makes me orgasm so hard. He thinks it's him but it's her on my mind the whole time.
I don't know what to do. I want to have sex with her. It makes me so excited thinking about how it will be. I've been watching lesbian porn to learn some things. I want her to have an affair with me. I know this sounds crazy but I am just being honest. I am afraid that my desires will overtake me. Please help.
Signed,
Deep Desire
Dear DD,
You did not fall in love with that lady. You came across someone who treated you better than your husband and you're mistaking her simple kindness for romantic affection.
In between looking up lesbian porn, look up some things to do in your state that align with your interests. Things will start to look up from there. I also want to encourage you to seek some therapy sessions to assist you with your mental health.
Also, if you're unhappy with your husband, let him know and ask for changes. If he is unwilling or unable, then start to make plans to move forward on your own.
Walk good,
#TeamWIsy
