Dear WISY,
I have a feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me with an older woman who owns a store. Every time I call him he is just leaving there and he always has money. He doesn't work there so how is he getting the money? I asked him and he told me he would never sleep with an old lady for money but where do you think he's getting it from? He has new clothes and new shoes all the time and can buy me things too. I just hope he's not being a man whore. What do u think?
Signed,
Is He Cheating?
WISY's Response:
Dear IHC,
It is suspicious that he always has money when leaving the store. You should always trust your instincts especially when he hasn't given you an explanation as to why he leaves the store with money any time he visits. If he isn't doing miscellaneous jobs there then he's probably obtaining the money in an illegal manner.
Ask him to explain his gain and if he can't then you know he's a person you shouldn't associate yourself with.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Dear WISY,
Some time ago, my mother started dating a guy who had a son who was a few years older than I was. I fell in love with this guy's son the moment I met him but I concealed my feelings because he was my "stepbrother". There were a few instances where he flirted with me but I quickly dismissed it and left the room. I was able to stay in control of my feelings until one weekend our parents were out on a couple's trip and my stepbrother came to the house for the weekend. No one thought anything of it because we played the brother-sister role very well. I was 17 and he was a sophomore in college so, we were responsible enough to be left alone.
That weekend all the feelings were released and he took my virginity. It was like a dream come true. We decided to secretly be romantically involved and I loved the thrill of sneaking around, stealing kisses and grabbing body parts in passing. He came over to "see his dad" almost every day and I went to his school whenever I could.
We got really comfortable with each other and one time we slipped up and didn't use protection. I got pregnant and we mutually agreed that we shouldn't bring a baby into such a crazy situation. After the termination of the pregnancy, we grew even closer than we were before.
Fast forward to present day - our parents split up last month and now, he has no real reason to come to the house and if he does come over, his dad gets an attitude. I think it's safe for us to reveal our love affair now that he's not my "stepbrother" but he thinks we should wait until he graduates in the spring so I can move in with him if our parents don't approve.
Should I wait? The situation is no longer awkward and I'm tired of the secrecy.
Signed,
I Love My Stepbrother
WISY's Response:
Dear ILMS,
This situation will always be awkward because your parents are ex lovers and if your relationship continues on to marriage and children, they'll be forced to interact with each other. Also, society may view your relationship as an odd one but there's no blood relation here so you all aren't doing anything wrong, especially meeting at this point in your lives. So, with that said, your parents may side with society and find this all too weird to accept and if that's the case, you have the option of moving in with him. Hopefully they won't and you all can carry on with their support.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Dear WISY,
I really really really like this guy in my class but he has a girlfriend who is all over him, all of the time! She doesn't give him an inch! If he goes to the bathroom, she's outside waiting for him. She pulls her desk next to his in class and all she does is text him throughout class. I can't even slide in and get a chance. She makes sure his eyes are always on her.
I don't know why but I can't help how I feel. It's a really strong attraction I have for him. I want him so bad and I won't stop until I get him. I can just feel his lips on my body and I know he knows his way around the bedroom. Why else would she be stuck to him like that? I know it's just a matter of time but I can't wait, I want him now! Please tell me how I can distract him from her and get what I've been craving since school started.
Signed,
I Need Him
WISY's Response:
Dear I Need Him,
Don't be that girl. He's in a relationship; you should respect that. So, calm your hormones and pay attention to your studies and not other people's boyfriends.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
