Dear WISY,
A friend of mine has a three year old child and she allows him to misbehave and even disrespect her. She doesn't discipline him and says it's just a phase he's going through. He slaps her, bites her and I've heard him curse at her too.
The other day she asked me to watch him while she ran some errands because he was just too out of control. I agreed and she dropped him off to my house. As soon as the child got there, he started pulling stuff off my shelves and running around like a wild dog! So, I grabbed him and spanked his behind. He cried and cried like if I had punched him in the face but then he went and sat quietly and watched TV. He didn't give any kind of trouble after that.
When his mother came back I told her I spanked him and how well-behaved he was after. I thought I was giving her the perfect solution for her child's behavior but she got so mad at me and told me that she was going to report me for child abuse. I told her to go ahead because what she is doing with her child is not benefiting him in any way. She hasn't spoken to me since and she has told everyone how I abused her child.
Where I grew up, kids took lashes from anybody if they were misbehaving.
Was I wrong?
Signed,
Miss Discipline
Dear Miss Discipline,
ReplyDeleteI understand where you are coming from but the days of "it takes a village..." are over. You can't just put your hands on someone's child.
Did you thoroughly express your concern for your friend's child before? Is she from the same culture as you? Is she aware of your methods of disciplining? These things should have been considered before you both agreed to you watching her son.
Hopefully, you can reach out to her and let her know that you were just doing what you thought was best for the child. Express your apologies to her and hopefully the relationship can mend.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
No ma'am, you were not wrong. I mean legally, you may be wrong if "capital punishment" is illegal where you live. However, she really needs a revelation that if she don't get that kid under control, NOBODY will agree to watch him. Sure, she has taken the child rearing approach of non-violence, but what did she really expect you to do??
ReplyDeleteShe may have a case against you, but in all honesty, some children do need a lick. He may continue to carry on at home, but if and when he returns to your house, he'll know how to behave.
i would have whooped his ass too...
ReplyDeleteI wouldnt want anybody touch my child but I dont tolerate bad children either. I dont no what i would do.
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