Groupie Tun Wifey

Dear WISY,

I was reading your blog and ‘Industry Wifey’ & ‘Classy Groupie’ stuck out to me the most.  I can relate to them because I was in both situations.  I was once the groupie and now I am the wifey.

I am here to tell you that groupies are to be feared because they do the things that “wifey” refuses to do.  I did all the things that were considered nasty and as a result the man couldn’t get enough.  I was his fantasy and now I am his reality.  I treated him like a king when his girlfriend complained about him being too lazy.  What she failed to realize is that the man works hard on the road to provide for his family and he should be rewarded for that.  All she did was complain and turn up her nose at the man’s wants and needs.  That’s why I’ve stepped in, moved in and moved her out.

Now, we’ve been an item for a little over 3 months and the loving gets better each time.  I make sure he doesn’t go looking elsewhere for some fun.  I change my hair regularly and make sure I look good each time he sees me.  When we go out, I make sure I am the eye candy of the event.  This way he has no time to look at others because he’s too busy watching the eyes that watch me.

So, to all the women who have time to be investigating certain familiar faces, make time to impress your man so you can keep him and not lose him to someone like me. ;-)

Signed,

Groupie Tun Wifey

Artist Fetish

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Dear WISY,

I almost don’t even want to send this in but it’s a burden on me and I’ve written to other advice columns before and they haven’t been much help.  So let me stop wasting time and cut to the chase (big sigh).  I am a successful, young entrepreneur and I have an artiste fetish.  I call it that because I get excited when I hear artistes are coming to my city and I do whatever I can to meet them and “greet” them…with my body.  It doesn’t matter what type of music they sing, I have a thing for a man with a mic.

Here is a scenario of what I go through:  I look out for tour schedules online and then wait for the confirmation that the artiste will in fact be in my city and then I set out a plan as to what I’m going to do to get their attention.  I find the ones that play in lounge or club venues are more accessible and I will usually reserve a table in VIP and pop bottles like a baller – no men, just me and a close friend.  The artistes usually prefer to approach a quiet, laid back female rather than a screaming, all out groupie.  So, I always pull their attention.  They probably wonder who this chick is holding her own in VIP, popping bottles bigger or equivalent to theirs.  Oh, I forgot to mention that my hair, make-up (professionally done), nails and outfit are always on point; nothing too trashy though.  A classy look will take you all the way.   

It usually starts with a glance and a smile and then it moves on to me sending them a bottle (boss move).  Then they come over to thank me and end up having a seat.  I act like I’m not impressed by their fame and they say and do whatever they can to make me impressed.  After a few drinks and some tipsy dialogue, I’m on the way to their room (but not after I offer to have him ride in my limo – yes, I hire a car service too!) and a couple hours of artiste fetish bliss. 

The night usually ends with me checking my phone and pretending to have something or someone to rush off to.  He usually asks me to stay a little longer and I decline and kiss him on the forehead and say “it’s been real.”  This one guy insisted on flying me out to the next show with him and I told him I had my business to attend to.  He was floored by my response and somehow managed to find the address of my business and sent me flowers the next day – flattering, yes, but not what I want.

After they leave town, I don’t hunt them down or anything like that.  I get a thrill out of having them while a million other girls wish they could.  I get a thrill out of being “that girl he left with”.  I don’t do it for money or fame.  I do it because of the high it puts me on. 

Herein lies the problem.  I have come across “a man with a mic” that is pursuing me and I am beginning to fall for him.  I am afraid that word will get around in the industry that I am the classy groupie.  I don’t want him to find out about all the artistes I’ve slept with and the manner in which I left them.  He’ll probably realize that what I did to him is what I’ve done to many others.  He’ll probably realize that what I did to him is just a part of my plot and he will undoubtedly be disgusted and leave me.

Should I back away from him before it gets too serious and spare us both the potential hurt and embarrassment or should I just let the chips fall where they may?    

Signed,

ArtisteLover

Industry Wifey

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Dear WISY,

I am the girlfriend of an entertainer.  I don’t want to go too much in detail about what type of entertaining he does, but let’s just say that he is successful with his career and his popularity is growing daily.  Anyway, I know that being the significant other of an entertainer usually means that there will be INsignificant others that he will be involved with on the road.  If I could I would travel with him wherever he goes but my schedule does not permit.

I usually do a very good job of keeping off of his social media sites and if I do happen to take a look, I try my best to not get jealous of the comments and the pictures.  However, the last few times that I’ve looked there is this one groupie who keeps popping up.  I asked him about it and he said that she is someone who works with numerous entertainers and aides them with their travel and coordination needs.  I am not stupid.  I can see the lust in her eyes and the want for my man.  I can see the way she grips on to him as if he belongs to her.  I know she is not just an employee for the road crew.  She is something way more and I feel the need to continue monitoring the situation.

One day, I spoke to one of his friends about groupies in general and he had the balls to tell me that I shouldn’t worry about the chicks that may hunt my man because even if he does sleep with them he is always so excited to come home to me at the end of it all.  He told me that my man expresses his love for me all the time and that nobody respects the groupies so I shouldn’t allow their existence to upset me.

I hear all that and I would actually be ok with it but I feel like this groupie is special.  She might be sneaking in to his heart and I’m afraid that she will replace me.  The reality is that the industry comes with a lot of heart ache and pain for the wife/girlfriend of an entertainer and I believe the men should do everything they can to protect their women from feeling this hurt.  My ultimate wish would be for him to be faithful while he’s out working but I know that’s damn near impossible.  He’s a man and he is flattered by the attention and he thinks with his lower head.  Moreover he is a West Indian man and sadly our culture tolerates unfaithful men.

My question is, is it better to leave him and be lonely (I know I would be lonely because I love him so much that I can’t even imagine seeing someone else at this point) or should I make myself accept what is going on and stay with him in the name of love?  Keep in mind that we have a child and both options can be damaging to the child.

Signed,

Industry Wifey