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One day, I spoke to one of his friends about groupies in general and he had the balls to tell me that I shouldn’t worry about the chicks that may hunt my man because even if he does sleep with them he is always so excited to come home to me at the end of it all. He told me that my man expresses his love for me all the time and that nobody respects the groupies so I shouldn’t allow their existence to upset me.
Dear WISY,
I am the girlfriend of an
entertainer. I don’t want to go too much
in detail about what type of entertaining he does, but let’s just say that he
is successful with his career and his popularity is growing daily. Anyway, I know that being the significant
other of an entertainer usually means that there will be INsignificant others
that he will be involved with on the road.
If I could I would travel with him wherever he goes but my schedule does
not permit.
I usually do a very good job
of keeping off of his social media sites and if I do happen to take a look, I
try my best to not get jealous of the comments and the pictures. However, the last few times that I’ve looked
there is this one groupie who keeps popping up.
I asked him about it and he said that she is someone who works with
numerous entertainers and aides them with their travel and coordination
needs. I am not stupid. I can see the lust in her eyes and the want
for my man. I can see the way she grips
on to him as if he belongs to her. I
know she is not just an employee for the road crew. She is something way more and I feel the need
to continue monitoring the situation.
One day, I spoke to one of his friends about groupies in general and he had the balls to tell me that I shouldn’t worry about the chicks that may hunt my man because even if he does sleep with them he is always so excited to come home to me at the end of it all. He told me that my man expresses his love for me all the time and that nobody respects the groupies so I shouldn’t allow their existence to upset me.
I hear all that and I would
actually be ok with it but I feel like this groupie is special. She might be sneaking in to his heart and I’m
afraid that she will replace me. The reality
is that the industry comes with a lot of heart ache and pain for the
wife/girlfriend of an entertainer and I believe the men should do everything
they can to protect their women from feeling this hurt. My ultimate wish would be for him to be
faithful while he’s out working but I know that’s damn near impossible. He’s a man and he is flattered by the
attention and he thinks with his lower head.
Moreover he is a West Indian man and sadly our culture tolerates
unfaithful men.
My question is, is it
better to leave him and be lonely (I know I would be lonely because I love him
so much that I can’t even imagine seeing someone else at this point) or should
I make myself accept what is going on and stay with him in the name of love? Keep in mind that we have a child and both
options can be damaging to the child.
Signed,
Industry Wifey
