A few weeks ago I was confronted by a young woman who I see from time to time. She asked if she could speak with me about something very serious. I immediately became frightened. She began to speak and her eyes filled with water. Mine did too.
She told me that my husband has been sleeping with her for the past two and a half years. She knew everything about me and even had sex in my bed. I was disgusted and my body began to break out in hives. She tried to console me but I wouldn't allow her to touch me. She then told me the worse news imaginable; my husband had fathered a child with her. Together they had a baby boy.
This news sent me into the deepest depths of depression. I stopped eating and couldn't get out of bed most days. My husband kept asking me what was wrong but I couldn't even look at him. He never changed his routine though. He still stayed out late at night and came home whenever he felt like.
For years, I have been trying to give my husband a baby and I have been unsuccessful. I feel like a failure and I feel as though I should not be too mad with him because I cannot give him what every man desires.
Should I tolerate his infidelity and new family or should I find the strength to move on?
Signed,
Heart & Spirit Broken
Why should you tolerate infidelity? Is it acceptable to you? You're upset right now, so I guess that's why you talking crazy.
ReplyDeleteInfidelity is not the answer to infertility. Your husband could have chosen fertility treatments with you, explored adoption options, etc. Having an almost 3 year relationship with a woman who is not your wife is not honourable at all; it is disrespectful and dishonest.
One would have to wonder the motive of the mistress after all this time to tell you she's been having sex with your husband.
You need to decide how you want to proceed. Do you want to save your marriage or do you want to end it? It sounds as if he is still actively having outside relations so he may have already ended the marriage in his mind/heart 3 years ago. You need to sit down and talk with your husband when you are able to do so calmly. You do not owe it to him to stay, but you owe it to yourself to be honest about what you want and how you will move on -with or without him.
Stay up.
Dear Broken,
ReplyDeleteYou should absolutely move on. Your husband obviously doesn't respect you and no one deserves to be in a relationship where mutual respect is absent. He has started another family and didn't have the decency to separate from you first.
Let's get one thing straight now - infertility issues and your husband's infidelity by no means makes you a failure. Do not allow society to cause you to think that way.
It won't be easy because betrayal is a hell of thing to get over but you must pull yourself out of this situation. Find someone who loves you regardless of your imperfections and together complete your puzzle.
If I were you, I would consider myself lucky and give thanks that I did not procreate with a cheating liar. Pick yourself up and get going!
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
I dont even understand y this letter was written! u have been replaced so act accordingly. KMT! Tiyad a foo foo ooman !!!
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