Confused Heart

Dear WISY,

I hope you can help me with some advice about my present predicament.  I am currently involved in a thirteen year long relationship.  We’re not married because earlier in the relationship I told him I didn’t want to get married and that I was good with just being together.  I never really had much faith in marriage because of what I saw around me but I know now that was an unfair judgment.

 Now that I’ve expressed my want for marriage, my boyfriend says he’s not interested in getting married anymore.  He says it’s been fine the way it is and I had my chance to get married but I declined.  So, now I’m unhappy and wondering why he doesn’t want to marry me anymore.  My mind is all over the place thinking that he’s cheating or has just fallen out of love with me.

 This was six months ago and we’re still together but I must admit there is tension and I feel we are drifting apart.  Since then I’ve been going out more, flirting and exchanging numbers with other guys.  So far, I’ve just been talking to them when time permits and when my boyfriend is not around but I feel myself gravitating toward one particular guy.  I like him because we share the same views plus HE WANTS TO GET MARRIED someday.  After our conversations, I find myself envisioning our wedding day. 

 He has asked me to be with him and move on from a relationship which has no future.  I’ve given it serious thought and I can’t make a decision. 

 Am I being unreasonable to my boyfriend? 

 I appreciate your help.

 

Signed,
Confused Heart