My husband’s best friend came over on Christmas to introduce his new girlfriend. They seemed very in love. My husband jokingly interrogated her and praised her for finally showing up to save his best friend. Following that day, we haven’t seen much of them, but they moved into a new place about 20 mins from our home. Recently they’ve been having issues and my husband’s friend sometimes sleeps over at our house instead of going home.
With that said, his friend contacted me to ask me if I knew anything about my husband and his girlfriend talking on the phone. I was unaware of that. I did some research and we both found that my husband and this young lady have been meeting up on lunch breaks, talking 2-3 hours at a time everyday, and they have been doing it all behind our backs. We confronted them. They admitted they had been having phone conversations, but stated they were discussing relationship issues and life.
We were also made aware that my husband bought her the new cat that she brought home some days after Christmas. With all of this, I am unsure of what to do. Has my husband really cheated with his friend’s girlfriend? Is it worth leaving my marriage?
I can’t trust him so I can't see working it out at all.
Signed,
I Had No Idea
Dear IHNI,
There is definitely cause for concern. The secrecy of it all leads me to believe that there is more than just phone calls and lunch dates to talk about life and relationship issues. Also, gifting a cat is usually reserved for close friendships, family members or intimate partners. Even if they are not intimate, this is a case of emotional cheating, and that can be more harmful than physical cheating. I don't blame you for losing trust, but I also want you to consider marriage counseling to help with this situation.
The help of a professional could help to unearth the root of the problem within your marriage or more specifically, with your husband. Counseling will help you determine what direction is best for you, and provide the next best steps to help you recover from the psychological effects that betrayal causes.
In the meantime, try to keep a clear head and surround yourself with people who will help you manage through this emotionally taxing time.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
The help of a professional could help to unearth the root of the problem within your marriage or more specifically, with your husband. Counseling will help you determine what direction is best for you, and provide the next best steps to help you recover from the psychological effects that betrayal causes.
In the meantime, try to keep a clear head and surround yourself with people who will help you manage through this emotionally taxing time.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
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