I'm in a situation that I'm ashamed to talk about with my friends. I need some help deciding what to do.
I am a college graduate and the eldest girl in my family. I was doing very well until I was forced to resign from my job because of inappropriate relations with a VP. He wasn't asked to leave but I was. Very unfair and sexist, if you ask me. I feel I can't talk about it because I will embarrass myself. We had a great connection. I believe that if we were in different circumstances, we would be a couple.
Since losing my job, I've fallen on hard times. I am planning to move back in with my parents, but I haven't told any of my friends. Only my parents know. I don't plan to be there long. In the meantime, I asked my lover (the VP) to help me out with a small loan. He told me he couldn't see me anymore and was definitely not going to help me. He said I almost ruined his life. Mind you, he was the one who pursued me.
I feel so hurt by the entire situation. I don't know where to turn from here. Like I said before, I haven't spoken to my friends because I'm too embarrassed. I'm giving up my condo to cut costs but I have a million other expenses to maintain. What do you think I should do to generate income soon?
Signed,
Embarrassed
WISY's Advice:
Dear Embarrassed,
Put all that false pride in your pocket. There is no shame in moving back home with your parents. In fact, more and more young adults are opting to move back home to save money. It's smart, practical, and can beneficial to all parties.
Ever hear the saying "a closed mouth doesn't get fed"? You could be missing out on some opportunities by withholding your situation from everyone. If you fear ridicule from your friends then you may not have true friends in your circle. Think about who genuinely cares and open up. You need some moral support right now.
Now, on to this VP guy. This situation screams "law suit"! Hire a good lawyer and expose this company for what they did to you. Hey, sometimes our human nature gets the best of us and we give in to temptation. No one was hurt, and no crimes were committed, but if this type of relationship is against company policy, then that VP should've been asked to leave as well. You have rights. Exercise them! I hope he is taught a valuable lesson. He deserves to experience a little discomfort, especially after what he did to you. Ugh.
Pick yourself up, get your resume out there, and keep it moving! When you land your next gig, start saving. You never know what life will throw at you. Oh yea, and adhere to company policy. 😉
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Ma'am you're embarrassing yourself now with this missive. He was the VP, clearly more valuable to the company than you were. You and you alone are responsible for where you are. Ok, he pursued you and you agreed to the fuckery when you coukd have just said no. That being said, go look work and knock out your bills one by one, i.e. grow up.
ReplyDeleteThis "VP guy" should have been punished just as you were, he is just as wrong as you. You should really consider legal action, find a lawyer that only gets paid if you win. That company needs to be exposed and the "VP guy" is a dick!
ReplyDeleteSounds like you're, "inexperienced. You probably posted pictures on Facebook and Instagram knowing that your relationship was against company rules. Stupid rookie move. I wouldn't help your butt either. He didn't have feelings for you. You were just a pretty face with a sexy shape at work. Move bag with your parents, keep your business to yourself and pick your butt up and get back on your grind. Find a job with a similar or even a competitor company. Make this a lesson and an opportunity to get into a better situation. Cut all your expenses you don't NEED, and start over. Be smarter this time
ReplyDeleteStop being a bird. You probably gave him a chance only because he was a VP. I bet you bragged to your friends and family that the VP was your man. Now you're left looking like a duck. Don't waste your time getting a lawyer. You broke company rules and the VP has more value to the company than you do. Now you're embarrassed because you left from dating VP to living with mommy cause you unemployed with no money. Next time follow rules and keep your mouth and legs shut and keep your secret business of Facebook, Stephanie!!(I hope that's her real name, but it's probably "Dummy")
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