Please answer ASAP!
I am going through something I never would've dreamed of. My boyfriend is trying to leave me for another girl. I can't imagine being without him so I really need your help to get him back in my corner.
I went through his phone and saw his texts with this girl. It looks like they have been talking for years. It seems like he knew her before me and now they're trying to move out of the friend zone. I didn't want to tell him I went through his phone so I asked him if he was happy with me. At first he told me yes and then he changed and said no, and then told me about the girl. I felt like my heart was ripping in my chest. I love my boyfriend so much. He told me he's going to be with her, and I told him that I'm not going anywhere. He told me I should prepare to be hurt because he will never put me first.
I know this sounds crazy but I know he's probably just going through some issues and is out of his mind. Please help me sway him back to where he needs to be.
Signed,
Not Leaving
WISY's Repsonse:
Dear NL,
That's awful. He should've told you he was moving on before getting so involved with the other girl. Actually, I don't know if that would've done you any good because you don't seem like the type to walk away. This delusional behavior will do you more harm than the hurt your boyfriend promised. Snap out of it and move on. Why would you want to subject yourself to all of that?
I know this must hurt like hell, but there's nothing left here for you. He told you he's moving on and you have to respect that. Go through all the emotions and ride it out until it doesn't hurt anymore. You'll be alright. I know it probably doesn't feel that way right now, but you'll be just fine. Time heals all wounds.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Wisy is right, you don't need to be with him. He doesn't seem to care too much about your feelings. It's gonna take a while, but soon You'll realize that he wasn't the one for You!
ReplyDeleteDammit man! This man don't want you. You're embarrassing yourself and prolonging the inevitable. Be grateful he told you straightforward cause some of these men does ghost you. Let it GO. This man been gone in his heart and mind, now his body is the last to follow. It hurts like a bitch, but its gonna happen and you cant keep a man that doesn't want to be kept.
ReplyDeleteYou can win in this situation. First of all, find out the reason why he wasn't happy. Find out all the problems he has with you. This is very important: DO NOT GET DEFENSIVE. This is not to prove him wrong, but to see things from his point of view. Take note of everything he thinks is wrong with you and finish the discussion with, "I still think you're a great guy and she sounds like a great girl. Thank you for my lovely memories. Kiss him on the cheek and say goodbye. Avoid all contact with him for a month while you work on all the things that he complained about. Improve yourself: hit the gym, start jogging, take some college classes. Do not bet him to stay. He needs to be with this girl to see that she may not be as great he thinks. He won't see that if you don't disadisappear completely for at least a month. Eventually he will call or better yet, you'll find a greater guy. Best scenario is that he will be so upset to see someone better with you, then you can tell him the same thing he told you.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, you were never his girlfriend in the beginning. If he was dealing with her way before you, he was using your time & affection to see if he really cared for the other female. Which turns out, that he loves her, if you don't carry on & find your blessing, you will destroy yourself
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