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Dear WISY,
I am a mother of two lovely
little girls and I have been carrying the burden of a secret that could change
our lives forever. I don’t believe my
oldest daughter belongs to my husband.
He is a business man and is successful with his ventures. He loves the girls very much but I don’t
believe he loves me.
From the beginning
of our relationship, he has acted like he just married me because I was the
first one to come along that showed any interest in him. He is not so attractive but he holds a
powerful position and that is sexy to me.
It is because of his attitude toward me that forced me to stray and
sleep with another man. I got pregnant
and immediately stopped seeing the man on the side. I was nervous because I really didn’t know
who was responsible for the pregnancy. I
played along and held my breath until she was born and when I looked at her I
forced myself to see my husband in her eyes.
Years have passed and she is
beginning to look like the other man.
She even walks like him! My
husband seems to fancy her more than our last daughter which makes it all the
more difficult to deal with.
I really need the advice of my
fellow women. I know I’m not the only
one who has been in this type of situation.
Should I tell him and risk losing the perks of having a wealthy husband
or should I carry on the way we are and convince myself that my affair with the
other man was just a dream? I figure
that I will suffer either way. I just
need to choose which type of suffering is the best.
Signed,
Guilty Conscience
Dear Guilty,
ReplyDeleteRound these here parts we deal in personal accountability, which means we do not accept that anyone’s attitude forced you underneath some other man. We need you to get real quickly. You had an adulterous relationship with another man because you wanted to. Don’t insult our intelligence.
Should you tell your husband your oldest daughter may not be his? Determine paternity with your doctor via DNA test first. If your husband is not the father, you should tell him. The truth has a way of coming out at the most inopportune time. At least this way, you look like you care enough to be honest.
Walk good,
#Team WISY
PS – May I recommend that you and your husband seek counseling or at least begin to improve your relationship by talking about whatever issues may be before you? You sound like his money is what is keeping you there. That’s no way to build a marriage.