I Earned an A+ in School...boys

Dear WISY,

Please tell me what you think I should do.  

I am a student in a University outside of my hometown.  Thankfully, I received an academic scholarship here because my parents didn't have money to send me to school.  They wanted me to attend school nearer to my home but were grateful that I was given money to get an education.  I love it here but I cannot concentrate on my studies, there is just too much distraction.

When I left home last year, I had only been with one man but now I have been with over thirty boys at my school.  I don't know what has come over me and I am more interested in the next date then in my school work.  I have, for the first time in my life, began failing my courses and now I am on academic probation and at risk of losing my scholarship.

I need to know how to get back on track and focus on what is important.  I really do not want to disappoint my family by failing.  Please help and God bless!

Signed,
Promiscuous Intellectual

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WISY's Response:

Dear PI,

It's unfortunate that a school closer to home was not available for you because it seems that this freedom is too much for you to handle.  

Think about the disappointment you will feel within yourself if you are forced to leave school because of something that comes a dime a dozen.  Think about how your family will feel knowing their daughter was more concerned with acquiring distinctions in sexual intercourse than in her academics.  Think about how these guys you are sleeping with will graduate and make their parents proud because they didn't allow anything to get in the way of their academic success.  Think about how it will feel looking on as they graduate, knowing you were blessed with something many pray for and threw it all away.  Is that enough for you to shift focus?

You were awarded a tremendous opportunity because of your scholarly gift.  To let this go to waste could be devastating to your life.  It's time for you to buckle down and stop the foolishness.  Sex ain't going anywhere, it'll be waiting for you once you graduate (with honors, hopefully) so, slow down and take it easy!

Walk good,
#TeamWISY

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Tempted to Touch

Dear WISY,

I've read some of your letters and I've gained the courage to write in and express how I am feeling.  

This past week I have been in a state of shock and I have not been myself at all.  I am carrying on as if everything is okay but honestly I am fighting a battle within myself that is burdening my spirit.

I found out that my daughter is dating a man I used to date a long time ago.  Long before she was even born, I met this man at a party and we dated briefly.  She had been telling me about her new man and how mature and established he is but I never thought he would be old enough to be her father.  She brought him to the house for dinner and I almost dropped the dish I was carrying when I saw his face.  I didn't know whether I should acknowledge that I knew him or pretend he was a stranger.  The introduction confirmed that he was indeed the man I dated and I could barely shake his hand.  He didn't let on that he knew me, so I kept quiet.  I used to curse the fact that I have gained a lot of weight, but that night I was thankful for it.  I guess I looked too different to recognize.

Long story, short - I have been reminiscing on the times I spent with him and how good of a lover he was.  I can't help but have dirty thoughts about him but I must stop because he is my child's man.

He is at the house a lot now and I am tempted to touch.  I know it is wrong but I cannot help how I am feeling.

Any suggestions as to what I can do to get these kinds of thoughts out of my head?  I hate that I feel this way.

Signed,
Tempted