I need advice. I hope you are old enough to help me out (smile). Please do not reveal my identity.
I am not sure what to do about my husband. He has become someone who I don't recognize. He has reconnected with his childhood friends through social media. He is in his 50s and he is now behaving like he is a teenager. Our children are in college and he is partying more than they are. I am nervous because my husband was extremely careless in his youth. He caused me a lot of pain because of his affairs with other women. We have overcome all of that and now he is on the path to repeating history. I am worried about my marriage. I do not want to go through that again.
I have spoken to him about it, but it seems the more I talk, the longer he stays out. He said I have nothing to worry about, but my gut is telling me otherwise. I really hope you are able to give some insight and help me through these difficult times. I am not willing to separate or divorce. That's out of the question.
Signed,
Worried Wife
Dear WW,
This is text book mid-life crisis. Your husband has gained his second wind of youth. Given his past, I can understand your negative emotions attached to this familiar behavior, but since you are adamant about staying together, the best advice I have for you is to ride the wave. Find your second wind also! Get out and have fun! The kids are in college. Take this opportunity to do the things you haven't had the freedom to do all these years!
Also, try to change your communication method. Your delivery may be the problem. You've been married to him all these years, so you should know the most effective way to communicate with him. Approaching the conversation with the intention of understanding and not gaining control is, in my opinion, the best route.
I hope this all works out for the best!
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
This is what happens when you live for your husband. When he has other things going on you're left to twiddle your thumbs. Get a hobby.
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