He's Been Cheating Since the Beginning of Our Relationship

Dear WISY,

Last week my boyfriend confessed that he has been cheating on me since the beginning of the relationship.  He only admitted after one of the girls he's been talking to sent me a message on Instagram.  She sent me all the receipts, and needless to say, I'm heartbroken.

I asked him about it immediately.  He was at work and I was yelling and screaming at him as you can imagine.  He told me he couldn't talk because he was working, so I waited for him to get to my house.  He confessed after two hours of me crying.  I've never felt this low in my life.

He is asking me to forgive him and he promised he would stop cheating.  I don't know what to do. I love him.  I had no idea he was cheating.  I was happy with him. I don't understand how this is happening.

Do you think I should try to work it out and give him a chance?

Signed,
Heartbroken

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WISY's Advice:

Dear Heartbroken,

There is something terribly wrong with this relationship, and I honestly don't feel like you should reconcile.  Here's why:

First, he has been lying to you and cheating on you from the very beginning.  The fact that you didn't know just proves that he is a pro at deception.  Someone who hides bad deeds so easily is dangerous.  You never know what else he's hiding.

Second, for him to cheat consistently throughout your relationship is a sign that he has some personal issues that he needs to address before trying to be anyone's man.  His need to be so deeply involved with someone other than you is not a reflection of your lack of anything (as many would think).  Instead, he is either an attention whore, struggling to feel powerful, or something along those lines.  You or anyone outside of him will never be enough until he deals with his voids within.

Third, ask yourself what you'll need to recover from his dishonesty and betrayal.  Will you be able to trust him or are you going to be worried about his every move from here on out?  

The foundation of the relationship is unstable.  It will be difficult to positively build upon it, but if you're the die hard, ride or die type, trod on.  I would suggest you give him some time to heal his inner wounds.  You can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved.  Remember that.

Walk good,
#TeamWISY