Please keep me private. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she's nasty. I don't know how I didn't know this before, but she is not a clean woman. She doesn't clean on a daily basis. I am continually cleaning the kitchen every night because I was raised to do that. I work and come home to her not doing anything, but the kitchen sink is full of dishes and the floor is dirty. Another thing, she doesn't shower every day. I asked her about that, and she told me that she doesn't shower every day in the winter time. I don't know if I can deal with a nasty woman. She is sexy and beautiful and intelligent, but she has some nasty habits. Is this normal girl stuff? It's my first serious relationship, so I really don't know. My sisters and mom are not like this.
Signed,
She's Nasty
WISY's Advice:
Dear She's Nasty,
Communicate. Let her know that her habits are disturbing to you. These behaviors are not gender specific. This is not normal girl stuff, this is individual preference/upbringing, so communication will help you both navigate through your differences. I can understand your concern of her not showering every day, but understand that that's her norm and she may have been raised to practice that habit, just like you were raised to do otherwise. In your communication, be mindful of that. Who knows, your talk may prompt her to begin better hygiene practices (I hope this happens!).
To remedy the cleaning issue, it's fair for you two to establish a cleaning schedule and/or designated cleaning areas. Splitting the cleaning load to present a clean home on a daily basis should be understood (at least, I hope so!).
In the end, if love can't blind you from these things then move out and move on. Get to know someone more intimately before you shack up next time.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
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