I recently broke up with a guy I've been with for almost five years. I invested a lot into the relationship. I gave him my all and I expected him to marry me. Instead of him going along the proper path, he played with my emotions. He told me I was rushing things and he told me he was trying to find his true purpose. I was patient with him because I love him.
Anyway, I decided to break up with him because he wasn't giving me what I expected. I thought the break-up would make him realize what we had and work to get it back. It's been two months and he hasn't even checked on me. I've called and texted him, but he doesn't respond. After 5 years, how could he just live without our communication so easily? I don't know how he does it. I am not happy. I miss him. I want to have him back in my life, even if that means carrying on without marriage. I am tempted to call his family to ask them to help me get him back. Should I call them and get my man back or should I learn to live without him?
Signed,
Hurting
WISY's Advice
Dear Hurting,
I think you'd be hurting yourself more if you try to get back with him. You need to break out of this delusion you have concerning him. When you were together, he told you that he was trying to find his true purpose. He was indirectly telling you that his purpose is not to marry you. Now that you're no longer a couple, he hasn't communicated with you. Again, this is confirmation that you two are not on the same page.
Naturally, you'll miss someone you've been with for five years. However, that doesn't mean you're meant to reconnect with him. Pay attention to his actions, my dear. So, to answer your question: Learn to live without him.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Signed,
Hurting
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WISY's Advice
Dear Hurting,
I think you'd be hurting yourself more if you try to get back with him. You need to break out of this delusion you have concerning him. When you were together, he told you that he was trying to find his true purpose. He was indirectly telling you that his purpose is not to marry you. Now that you're no longer a couple, he hasn't communicated with you. Again, this is confirmation that you two are not on the same page.
Naturally, you'll miss someone you've been with for five years. However, that doesn't mean you're meant to reconnect with him. Pay attention to his actions, my dear. So, to answer your question: Learn to live without him.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Wooooow I can't believe this is how some grown girls think 🤔🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾
ReplyDeleteI was really interested in this one because I can understand her struggle. Soooo many women (and men, though it seems more under the radar) have been through the feelings and anxieties that she's experiencing. It's ironic that the she broke it off for the right reasons (not getting out of it what she wanted) but attached unrealistic expectations to the decision (thinking that breaking up would make him fight for her). Wisy's advice is the best route in my opinion, though I'm sure it's unsatisfying for the OP to hear. She has to back off and recover. If he comes back down the line, then maybe it can all be discussed, but for now I agree that it's best to be separated. Even if he still cares about her and wishes it all worked out, his silence and inaction is the indicator of what he thinks is best for him right now.
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