Last week I went out with my friends back home while on holiday break. We saw this guy who I used to like in high school, but he was never nice to me. He would always tease me about my clothes and shoes and stand in the hallway with the other boys and make gas sounds when I walked by. He made my life hell, but I still liked him. I don't know why, I just did.
Anyway, I saw him at the club over break, and he took my number, and we've been talking ever since. He apologized for how he behaved in high school. He told me he liked me and didn't want anyone else to like me, so he insulted me instead to keep me away from the guys at school. I told him it really hurt my feelings and I still have insecurities because of it today.
Anyway, I'm wondering if I should continue the relationship. A part of me thinks he's still an asshole. High school was only two years ago. What do you think?
Signed,
Still Hurt
WISY's Response:
Dear Still Hurt,
You're better than I am because I wouldn't have made it this far with him. Yea, I know we're supposed to forgive and forget, but that's a whole lot of trauma to overcome from not so long ago.
Since you're obviously a lot more forgiving than I am (and I commend you for that), you could proceed cautiously with this guy. Take your time, get to know him, be sure that his intentions are positive, and then, if all is well, feel free to freefall into love, and create something beautiful from this once painful element of your life.
BUT - I also want you to consider whether you are seeking approval from this person who tormented you and undoubtedly caused you to develop insecurities. You could feel a sense of validation because of the shift in nature of his attention. You may be looking for healing from the very same source that made you sick. He could be ego-tripping; getting the same girl he used to torment to eat out of the palm of his hand. Have a very in-depth, truthful talk with yourself to determine whether this could be the case. I don't want you ending up in an abusive relationship.
Click the links, they'll help you.
I hope you figure it all out, and I hope this turns out to be a beautiful start for your 2018!
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Anyway, I'm wondering if I should continue the relationship. A part of me thinks he's still an asshole. High school was only two years ago. What do you think?
Signed,
Still Hurt
The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself (Fawcett Book)
WISY's Response:
Dear Still Hurt,
You're better than I am because I wouldn't have made it this far with him. Yea, I know we're supposed to forgive and forget, but that's a whole lot of trauma to overcome from not so long ago.
Since you're obviously a lot more forgiving than I am (and I commend you for that), you could proceed cautiously with this guy. Take your time, get to know him, be sure that his intentions are positive, and then, if all is well, feel free to freefall into love, and create something beautiful from this once painful element of your life.
BUT - I also want you to consider whether you are seeking approval from this person who tormented you and undoubtedly caused you to develop insecurities. You could feel a sense of validation because of the shift in nature of his attention. You may be looking for healing from the very same source that made you sick. He could be ego-tripping; getting the same girl he used to torment to eat out of the palm of his hand. Have a very in-depth, truthful talk with yourself to determine whether this could be the case. I don't want you ending up in an abusive relationship.
Click the links, they'll help you.
I hope you figure it all out, and I hope this turns out to be a beautiful start for your 2018!
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
This smells like 100% pure hog shit. Sleeping with him will only add fuel for him to light your ass on fire with more insults. Don't trust him for a second, but there's a way to get what you want and get even. Buy a brand new dildo. Promise him a threesome and more freaky stuff only if you can use the dildo on him. Make him lick it afterwards. I guarantee that he will be on his best behavior after that.
ReplyDeleteGirl please.......go find another man ��
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