I need to get the opinion of you and your readers. I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for about six months. His best friend really likes me. I don't believe he likes me in a fresh way, he likes me as a person. He likes me so much that he has been telling me everything about my boyfriend. I've heard about everything from the time they were children up until now.
Sometimes when he calls me to talk I feel weird because my boyfriend would not like it if he knew. I don't think my boyfriend wants me to know about the embarrassing times of his past and his deepest secrets, but his best friend keeps telling me every little detail. I know I could stop him but the conversation is so juicy. If we were to ever break up, I would have so much on him! But I know it's not right, so how do I tell the best friend to zip it without ruffling his feathers?
Signed,
Informed
WISY's Advice:
Dear Informed,
It's wonderful that you have formed such a great relationship with your boyfriend's best friend, but remember that's your man's best friend, not yours. This secret relationship you've formed with the best friend may seem innocent but it's wrong, and you know that.
So, how do you stop it? Just tell him. Why should you care so much about ruffling his feathers? It's not him you should be concerned about. You should be concerned about what your boyfriend will think if he discovers that all of his information has been carelessly revealed to you.
It sounds like that best friend is a chatterbox. You should also be careful about what you say because if he considers your man his best friend and still gossips with you about him, he'll turn right around and gossip about you. He obviously doesn't have a loyal bone in his body.
Tell the informant that you don't care to hear about your boyfriend's secrets anymore. That's it. And if you really want to clear your conscience, tell your man that you know a little too much about him. Maybe you'll have some damage to repair or maybe he won't care, but you should tell him.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
He likes you a bit more than you think. He tells you about your boyfriend's business because he knows that he'll have your attention. Here's what you can do. Tell him that you're gonna hook him up with one of your friends. Get him someone else to chat to. If that doesn't work, avoid talking to him. Have an excuse whenever he calls. Always say, "I'll call you right back",...and just don't call.
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