I need your advice, please.
I am so fed up with my boyfriend these days. I feel like I don't know who he is anymore. In the beginning of our relationship, we couldn't stay away from each other. We were always locked in the bedroom doing you know what. It was like our thirst couldn't be quenched for each other. Now, my boyfriend is always sleepy, always tired, always stressed, always with an excuse!
I told him that I'm going to leave him and he told me that I am being shallow, and that relationships do no revolve around sex. I told him that I feel like the man in the relationship because I only hear about women trying to avoid sex.
I don't know what else to do. I feel like cheating on him with this guy at work, but I know that's wrong. What do you suggest I do to get my man to sleep with me a lot again?
Signed,
Deprived
WISY's Advice:
Dear Deprived,
Such a drastic change is understandably frustrating. Cases like these aren't uncommon. This tends to happen when the initial flame of passion is extinguished. It's important to continue to "date" each other throughout the relationship. In other words, behave as if you're still trying to gain the interest of your partner. Keep things new and exciting; go on dates, take a weekend rendezvous, compliment each other, wear sexy lingerie, etc.
Men often decline sex when they are having insecurities, so talk to him some more. Try to figure out if there's something bothering him, and work with him to resolve the issue. Also, tell him that you'd like to spice things up a bit. Explain that your relationship does not revolve around sex, but it was a major part in the beginning, and you miss it tremendously. Wear something he'll like and suggest going out to dinner. Tell him how much you love him Make him feel good about himself. Think of the things you all did in the beginning of the relationship and reintroduce them.
If he still doesn't bite the bait, then it may be that he's lost interest in you. He may not be attracted to you anymore. If this is the case, then it's obviously time to move on.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
she is a source of stress for him. He is getting it from someone who is not stressing him. Men don't go from sex addicts to that unless they have been satisfied elsewhere...Talking from experience.
ReplyDeleteMen don't decline sex because of insecurities, we decline sex when we don't find the lady sexy anymore or the sex becomes boring. Usually he tells you by making suggestive comments. Did you gain weight or stop being sexy? You need to go back to when you guys met. Dress the same way, talk the same way, wear your makeup, do your hair and nails and maintain your sexy figure. Get your act together before he starts to look for someone else who's sexy.
ReplyDeleteHow old are you? You sound childish and pestering. Appetites change, libido speeds up and slows down, relationship rhythms ebb and flow all the time. Stop being a self centered child and talk like an adult with him, if you can cause you sound immature af. If you care about your man, work it out. If you only care about you move on.
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