Please do not publish my name. I am so confused right now. I am getting married next week but I am having a change of heart. I thought I loved my husband to be but I'm not sure anymore. The reason for the change is his best friend. I have been having an affair with him for the past three months.
My finance's best friend told me that when my fiance spoke to him about proposing to me, he felt his heart break. He told me that when we all first met that he was the one who pointed me out to my fiance. He said my fiance knew he liked me and it really hurt him when he saw him talking to me that night. The truth is, I had my eyes on him too but I settled for my fiance because I didn't think I had a chance with his best friend. He is a very handsome man.
Now, we have finally professed our feelings for each other, and it's like we were meant to be. I feel like he is the one I'm supposed to be with. I feel pain in my heart when I think of marrying my fiance. I don't want to do it but I cannot back out now. I've spent so much money on this wedding, I have family and friends traveling from all over the country and world, and mostly, I don't want to bring shame to myself or family.
What should I do? I hope I gave enough information. I don't want my people to figure it out when they read this.
Signed,
Confused Bride to Be
Dear CBtB,
So, why haven't you told your fiance yet? If it's such a strong feeling then you shouldn't be hesitant to tell the truth. Your fiance deserves to know the type of woman you are and the type of man his best friend is. When emotions are running this high, it's only a matter of time before you get "messy" and accidentally reveal your secret. Save all the drama and fess up!
I won't encourage you to marry someone you don't love and will probably cheat on. Also, your fiance shouldn't marry someone like you who has carried on a three month affair with his best friend. If you're not going to respect your husband then don't enter into marriage.
It's a bit late to be worried about shame and wedding costs and all the other things you've mentioned. It's time to face the music, girlfriend! If you're lucky, your man on the side will stick by you through all of this or you may discover that all of this was just a revenge plot because he lost to your fiance on the night you all met (this was the first thing that came to mind after reading your letter). Who knows! One thing's for sure, there will be a lot of hurt and pain because of your actions.
Hey Karma! Is that you?!
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Ouch! Miss Wisy that's harsh but truthful. She tried to play the victim card on you but you saw right through it.
ReplyDeleteI don't think she should carry the burden of telling by herself. The best friend should also tell. It takes two to tango!
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