Dancehall Queen!

Dear WISY,

I am from the reggae and dancehall capitol of the world.  I love my people but I DON'T like my woman in the dance every night.  I met her after a dancing competition she was taking part in.  She wants to be a DHQ (Dancehall Queen), so she is always dressing naked, and men are always rubbing up on her.  I don't like it.  She still can't win a crown, and she is wasting time with this foolishness .  I told her I don't like it.  She spun the story and told me that I am trying to block her success.  The only thing I am trying to block is a next 🍆.  I know those men in the dance don't respect her and I know she will soon start to cheat on me.

I want her to find respectable work.  She thinks she has it going on because she gets rewarded with one or two beers. I want her to stop the dancing and find a proper 9 to 5.  It's not a good look!

Signed,

Concerned Boyfriend

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WISY's Advice:

Dear Concerned Boyfriend,

I can understand your concern, but what do you expect?  You met your girlfriend as an aspiring dancehall queen so what makes you think she will suppress her aspirations because she began a relationship with you?  As you already know, the dancehall culture requires intimate type dancing.  That doesn't mean she is taking it further than the dance floor.  Just because she met you and liked you, doesn't mean she has eyes for everyone.  You seem to be insecure with trust issues.  Think about that and address it.

If she isn't able to earn a living from dancing then encourage her to approach it from a different angle.  With the use of social media she can make a name for herself in the industry.  Encourage your girlfriend to achieve her goal whether you find it foolish or not.  She will appreciate you for it.  If you don't, someone else will, and then she may really find reason to cheat and eventually move on.

If the whole dancehall scene is not for you, then remove yourself from the relationship, and look elsewhere for a girlfriend next time.  Wherever you go looking, understand that you cannot change a person because you suddenly become uncomfortable by who they've always been.

Walk good,

#TeamWISY