My boyfriend treats me like one of the guys. I don't know if we're too comfortable with each other but he likes to punch my arm and wrestle me to the ground. He's not romantic, he asks for sex in the most immature way and the thing that bothers me the most is when we go out, he flirts with other women and tells me how hot they are. I've been pretending that all of this is not a big deal but I hate it.
I don't know how to make things go back to how they were in the very beginning of our relationship because he behaves so stupid and I know I might become annoyed with him and mess everything up.
How do I get things back how I need them?
Signed,
Annoyed
Dear Annoyed,
It's great that you two have developed that level of comfort, it really is. It's an amazing experience when your lover is also your best friend. However, the absence of romance and maturity would be a turn off for me also.
You have to speak up and let your boyfriend know that you're uncomfortable being his homey and you need romance and a certain level of maturity. I wouldn't recommend you to ask him to completely stop his behavior because that will place you all in a place of unrest and distrust. He behaves that way with you because he completely trusts you and feels free to be himself - don't take that away, you'll regret it. You should ask for compromise and try to maintain balance. For example, tell him when he wants to get intimate, he should approach you with romance. It doesn't have to be a huge, lavish production but his words and actions should be gentler and of the seductive nature.
Ultimately, you're to blame for this because of your decision to go along with it all as if you were okay with it. I don't think you would be in this situation if you had spoken up initially.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
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