This past week I was doing the wash and my husband's underpants smelled like another woman's aroma. You might think I'm crazy but I smell his underpants every time I wash them. I also smell his other clothes and check them for lipstick and perfume smells. This time I was unpleasantly surprised by this discovery.
I took the underpants to him and asked him why they smell of someone other than me. He told me I was stupid and crazy and continued to watch TV. I knew in my heart that he was only trying to make me forget this instance but I planned to catch him fair and square the next time.
Again, I went through the soiled clothes and smelled all of his clothes. This time the undergarment smelled like wash soap and fabric softener. I guess he thinks he has outwitted me by washing his garments before returning home. I didn't say anything this time but some mischievous thoughts entered my brain.
I am still laughing at what I did. I took all of his garments and rubbed nettles in the privates area. I rubbed it over and over again until I was sure he could not avoid the sting. Unfortunately, that did not work so I decided to spy on him to see where he goes after work.
I arrived at his job an hour before he is supposed to resign for the day but he never came out of there. I went in to inquire about him and they said he left at lunch time complaining of illness. His boss questioned me and figured out that he was not at home in my care. He realized that my husband was a liar. I was embarrassed and glad all at once. I did not catch him but his boss caught him in a lie. Our Father in heaven is good!
That night I didn't say anything but when he arrived home from work the next day he was several hours early and was upset with me because I had caused him to lose his job. I am now nervous for our well being. How will he provide for us if he doesn't work?
I feel obligated to go to the job and persuade his boss to forgive him and explain that it was a misunderstanding. I also feel that I should allow him to suffer for what he has done but that will also cause me to suffer.
What do you think I should do?
Signed,
Follow Your Nose
Dear FYN,
I couldn't help but chuckle at your letter; your tactics are original, to say the least. 😂
On a serious note, I'll state the obvious: if you feel the need to always check your husband's clothes for strange smells then it's evident that trust is absent and a relationship with no trust is broken.
Now that you have confirmed your suspicions, you are most concerned with your financial well being and not the fact that your husband is a liar and a cheater. So, was it really worth all the snooping and sniffing? Ask yourself if his financial support is worth more than a loyal relationship. Then you can determine if you should step in and condone his behavior for the sake of money.
If I were you, I'd leave him to clean up his own mess, move in with family, find a way to support myself, and divorce him. I would also consider enrolling into a career of investigation or something which requires an extraordinary sense of smell! 😉
Walk good,
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ReplyDeleteYou're a thoughtless jerk. When his boss said he left because of illness, you should have said, "thank you", then left. Now there's no income. Maybe you could seek employment as underwear sniffer, or a police can hire you instead of a dog to smell the crime scene for clues.
ReplyDeleteMa'am you sound like a wack job and a weasel. If you have to smell your man's underwear you don't need to be with him. Then you went to his job. For what? Do you two not eat out of the same pot? There are better ways to do what you were trying to do. Now he's suffering for being a liar and you're suffering for being stupid.Seek counseling and better employment for yourself or your cupboards will be bare before too long.
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