I Want My Ex Back

Dear WISY,

I'm writing because I can't get over my ex's good loving.  I left him for someone else about a year ago and I'm really regretting that decision.  At first, my current boyfriend was going above and beyond to satisfy me in bed and now he barely wants to be intimate.  I NEVER had that problem with my ex; he was always ready for me and always left me worn out.

It's getting cold and you know what happens when it's cold out and everyone wants to stay in.  I'm trying to cuff as much as possible and my boyfriend would rather sleep.  I can't help but think about my ex and all the sex we would be having during the winter months.  I want him back so bad but I saw on Facebook that he got engaged.

I know most may not understand but the urge I have for my ex is crazy! I just want him to come take care of business like I know he can.  I don't even want to interfere with his engagement, I just want him physically and then he can go back to being a good fiance.  

How can I get him to come see me a few times a week without causing too much drama?  Remember, I don't want him back, I left him for a reason but I need the goods ASAP.

p.s.  no judgment/morals story necessary.  I just want to know how I can be the best FWB to an engaged man. 

Signed,
Need Him Back

WISY's Response:

Dear NHB,

First, thank you for considering me a good source to help you solve your problem.  Second, don't tell me how to answer you.  With that said, you need to leave that man alone.  What makes you think you can discard him and then decide to use him however you please?  He's moved on and realizes that the one he's with is worth marrying.  If he wanted to continue any aspect of the relationship with you, he would've been trying all along to get you back.  He didn't and that speaks volumes.

Focus on the man you have and try to get him to understand that you need loving around the clock.  Perhaps you can get him to try some new things to peak his interest again.  Having relations with your ex isn't going to solve the matter at hand.  You need to recognize what the real issue is and plot and scheme to fix that.

Here are some resources to help you in case you may not grasp what I'm trying to tell you.  

Tilt Health Care | Vaginal Rejuvenation Tightening Gel for Women - Advanced Cream Naturally Tightens Vaginal Walls with Alum & Oak Gall. Paraban, Sulfate, Phlalate, & Fragrance Free 2 fl oz 

Keeping the Spark Alive: Reignite the Passion & Fix Your Communication 

A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Unlock the Male Mind (Dating and Relationship advice for Women. Learn How to Think like a Man. Better Communication for a Better Love Life. Book 1) 

Sex Secret For Women: 33 Sex Secret Men Wish You Know But Will Never Tell You

Walk good,

#TeamWISY