I Slept with My Boss's Man

Dear WISY,

I am so afraid for my well being and the well being of my children.  I was recently involved in an altercation with my boss and she has threatened to have me deported back to my country.  I have been working for my boss for the last five years and I she has been helping me with my immigration affairs.  I treat her home as if it is mine and I treat her children as if they are mine also.  We have become family over the years and I have really dedicated my best to her.

Unfortunately, foolishness got the best of me and I began to sleep with her new boyfriend.  I found him attractive the moment I met him but didn't know the attraction would grow so intensely.  He is not the first one of her boyfriends to make advances towards me but for some reason I could not resist him.  We have been sleeping together when she is out working a case and she never suspected anything until she came home with the flu and caught him right on top of me.  

Since then I have lost my job and I find that unfair because she is still with him.  I know this because he told me.  Yes, I am still seeing him.  In fact, it is much easier now because he comes to my apartment or he takes me away for a weekend.  I don't know what he is telling her but some of the guilt has lifted for me and I no longer feel the need to be loyal to her.

The major problem now is the status of my residency.  She has threatened to withdraw her sponsorship and said she would make it her business to have me deported.  She is a lawyer and knows the system well and I fear that she will follow through with her threats.

I have asked this man to marry me just for immigration purposes and he said he needs to think about it first.  What is there to think about?  He knows what she is capable of and I know I mean a lot to him.

I know I did wrong but I don't think I deserve this.  What can I do to ensure my children and I remain in this wonderful land of opportunity?

Signed,
Legal Alien

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WISY's Response:

Dear Legal Alien,

What is that old West Indian saying again?  Oh..."Sorry fi mawga dawg, dem tun round and bite you!" In other words, you have bitten the hand that fed you.  You are ungrateful and disloyal and you do deserve to be threatened with deportation.  However, I do not wish that for anyone other than those who have committed violent and heinous offenses.  I especially do not wish this for you since you have children.

Get yourself an immigration lawyer and see what you can do to safeguard your future.  If you can't afford a lawyer then do the research for yourself, call Immigration and see what else needs to be done to move your status along.  Asking your boss's man to marry you is throwing salt in the wound.  She will surely have your head if that were to ever come about and rightly so. 

Please put an end to all of this.  Apologize to your boss and cut ties with her man then move on with the circumstances of your choices.  You call this place the "wonderful land of opportunity" so go find some more opportunities to help you out of this mess.

Walk good,
#TeamWISY

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