I feel like I'm an adult trapped in a teenager's body. I love to have sex and I'm only 16. I know I should be more focused on my school work but I don't really have to focus for school. I'm naturally smart and get good grades 100% of the time.
I've been lying and telling my parents I'm at study group every day but instead I've been meeting my older boyfriend to have sex. My boyfriend is older but don't worry, where I'm from, I'm at the age of consent to have sex but you know my parents will think I'm too young. So far I have been able to get away with what I'm doing but I know I might get caught one day. I really want to talk to my mother about what's going on and how I feel but I know she will go psycho on me. She'll get over it but I'm just afraid to even approach her about it. It's very frustrating not having anyone to talk to.
Like I said before, I'm a smart girl and I know that this will become a problem soon. What should I do now to prevent any trouble in the future?
Signed,
Trapped
WISY's Response:
Dear Trapped,
Sigh, okay, first off, I'm really happy you reached out for advice and are able to identify that your behavior could get you into trouble. I also come from a place where the age of consent is 16 (not sure if it still is) and I know a few girls who got themselves into situations they weren't ready for. Let's be real, 16 is a long way from adulthood and you shouldn't be involved in anything you cannot handle independently. So, with that being said, if you truly want to take it down a few notches, talk to your mom about it even though she will probably have a "psycho" reaction. That reaction comes from a place of love and concern and the want to always protect you. In the end she will appreciate you feeling comfortable enough to discuss your issues with her which will ultimately strengthen your relationship. She will help you through the situation the best way she knows how. Maybe you could suggest sessions with your school counselor.
Surround yourself with people who are striving to set a solid foundation for their life goals and make a conscious decision to focus on your education. You sound like your intelligence could get you a scholarship and you could be celebrated throughout your academic career. You are so young and haven't even begun to know what life has to offer. Slow down and focus that energy into a project of some sort; give that brain of yours a challenge - do something that will keep your attention and leave you with less time to think about physical gratification. Do not allow something as common as sex to interfere with your extraordinary potential.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Whats going on with these sex crazy people lately.Little girl you are to young for sex...don't care what the law in your country says.Be smart and elevate your life before you end up with a baby or disease that will hold you down too soon in life.
ReplyDeleteKeep your partners to a minimum, and make sure you use protection every time. Talk to your mom about it, pretenting it's a "friend" you have in class and she asked you for help and you don't know what to say to her and what should you say to her. That way you can get your mother's help indirectly, and you'll see her reaction to the situation. In the mean time, no nude pix, no videos, no sexting. Keep at all off cyberspace! You'll thank me later.
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