This Election is Ruining My Marriage

Dear WISY,

Urgent!

My husband and I met during a political meeting back in 2008 (or 2007, not sure).  We were drawn together by our beliefs and faith in President Obama.  We worked hard to campaign for him.  We bonded throughout the late nights and early mornings and somehow fell in love.  We got married in 2010 and even sent a message to the White House detailing how the campaign brought us together and extended an invitation to the President and First Lady to attend.   They didn’t show but we kind of expected that.  We’ve had our ups and downs but for the most part we’ve been great.

I’m sure you can understand my disappointment when my husband told me he was supporting Trump.  He said he doesn’t think a woman is ready to run the country and he said he agrees with Trump’s views when it comes to immigration.  I feel like I have an imposter in my home.  I don’t know who this man is and I certainly don’t want him around me anymore.  Needless to say, my home has been a war zone.  I’ve tried not to turn on the news but he finds it necessary to bring every negative thing about Hillary to my attention and I react with rage each time.

This election is tearing my marriage apart.  How ironic is it that the last one brought us together and now this one is repelling us from each other?  SMH.  I’m not one to quit but I feel hatred towards my husband for joining forces with the opposition and belittling women and immigrants.  I don’t want a divorce so how can I make this work?  And by this, I mean how can I get my husband to wake up and see the light?

Signed,

Election Blues

P.S. we are black!

photo credit:  blogs.christianpost.com

WISY's Response:

Dear Election Blues,

I'm sorry your marriage is in turmoil due to the presidential race.  Perhaps too much emphasis was placed on politics to begin with.  Your love story is a beautiful one but if it was based solely on political views and involvement then this type of upset is inevitable.

In order to save your marriage, you both have to learn to respect each other's opinions of the presidential candidates.  Instead of indulging in the circus of mud slinging, you should skip the news and enjoy a night out together; go watch a game or have a nice dinner.  Do something other than bicker over the upcoming election that will eliminate the feelings of hatred you feel towards your husband.

You both have to remember that these candidates don't know you personally and whether they win or lose will not be a direct result of your strong opinions.  They will not come to your door and personally thank you for holding on to your beliefs even though it divided your household.  To them, you are a vote, a statistic, a number - nothing more.  So, please do not allow this to spoil your love for each other.

Walk good,

#TeamWISY