One night I was out with my girls and we were leaving the restaurant and heading to the lounge. We were all single and looking to mingle! As soon as we were about to get in the Uber, a group of guys walked up and started talking to us. I was immediately attracted to this tall, caramel brotha with long braids and broad shoulders. He was fine af! Anyway, we told them we were about to head to the lounge and they said they would meet us there.
We got there and waited for them to come so they could buy us drinks. They rolled in like ten minutes after we got there and we picked up where we left off. I'm the quiet one of all the girls, I like to keep my mouth shut and my eyes and ears open. After we gave them our drink orders we started talking about who we liked but as usual, I was quiet. I heard my girl say she liked the same dude I liked. So, now you know I'm in an awkward spot already! I decided to fall back and let her go after him. It's not like I would've gone after him, I'm way too shy.
They came back and couples started breaking off on their own - dancing and what not. It was just me and one other girl left standing around and the last dude from their crew came and talked to me. I told him I didn't want to leave her alone so he decided to stay and the three of us hung out together for the rest of the night. At the end of the night, he approached me for my number. I gave it to him but I really wanted to give it to the other guy.
This guy is nice and we've been seeing each other for a few months but every time I see his friend, I want to rip his clothes off. On top of that, I have to listen to my girl talk about him ALL DAMN DAY!! She's the type of girl to go into all the fine details and I've heard everything about him from his draws to his moans. I'm secretly torn apart inside and I don't know how to get over not winning over the man I wanted. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have to see and hear about him all the time.
How can I overcome this jealousy before I begin to hate my friend for having what I want?
Signed,
Jealous
You will get over it in due time, but I just hope that this teach you something. That you can be shy all the time because someone else will steal what could be yours.
ReplyDeleteMa'am, you missed the raatid bus. Get on over it. Besides, you didn't lose out on the man you wanted; he didn't want you. He wanted your friend, so had no choice but to fall back. Enjoy the man you have or let him go so he can find someone who will appreciate him and not cry over what never was.
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