I am writing for advice on my family situation. I used to be very close with my brother but we fell out a few weeks ago and everybody in my family is saying I should be the bigger person and apologize to him. I don't see the need for me to apologize to someone who intentionally hurt me and has secretly been jealous of me for years.
My brother is gay, well beyond gay because he wants a sex change and he secretly hated me for being a woman. He loved me and hated me at the same time but I guess his hate became too much for him to keep inside and it bubbled over and he began discussing my secrets with others and when something bad happened to me, he secretly glorified it.
I have been nothing but supportive to him and his wishes but for some reason he hated me. I loaned him my clothes and make up when he wanted to secretly dress as a woman and I never told anyone. But now everyone thinks I'm the bad guy because I cursed him out when I found out he was discussing me with others. They are all blinded by the victim role he likes to play but I see through the B.S. and I will never forget how he betrayed me.
Am I wrong for wanting to stay away from him? I don't trust him. He's family but I don't care.
Signed,
Hurt by SHim
This one hits home for me. I can understand your hurt and pain as far as being hurt by a sibling you held close to your heart is concerned. It's painful to accept, but sometimes you have to let go and realize that just because you share some of the same DNA, doesn't mean you are obligated to put up with their nonsense.
ReplyDeleteWhen a person is jealous of you, whether it be a sibling or not, there really isn't anything you can do or say to change their feelings toward you. In your case, he's jealous of you because you were born the sex he wishes he was and you most certainly won't be changing that, right? So, the best thing to do is to move on.
Because you are family, you will probably have to see each other from time to time. Be cordial and go confidently knowing that your heart is free of malice and hate and that you don't owe this person anything.
Walk good,
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