Dear WISY,
It's me again. I wrote to you about the guy who has a girlfriend and won't leave me alone. I took your advice and continued to block him if he found another way to contact me but that didn't work. His messages became very threatening and offensive, so I called the cops on him. The cops didn't want to take me seriously at first, but I went to the police station and showed them all the attempts he made to talk to me and of course I showed them the messages. They told me that they would contact him and warn him to keep away from me, but told me that I should get a restraining order...🙄 restraining orders are useless in ________!
Anyway, I left and immediately called my ex to tell him what was going on. Before you ask, I went to my ex because we are still very close and he will have my back always. So, yea I told him about what was going on and he agreed that he would confront the guy on my behalf. He is a man of his word and he didn't waste any time contacting the guy and telling him to back off. He even told him that he would contact his girlfriend if he didn't stop contacting me. The guy seemed afraid and told my ex that he didn't really know me like that and that I was lying on him 😂😂😂. He said to keep his name out of his mouth and to never contact him again. I felt relief about the whole situation and even felt in the mood to give my ex a little something of what he's been missing 😋.
Now, I have a different question. Thanks, by the way, for helping me through my situation. What you said worked very well. But, my new question is all about my ex. We are so close still and the sex was so good and we had a good talk after we had sex. I wonder if I should get back with him. We broke up because he was cheating on me, but that was like 5 years ago. He has grown and matured now. I think we could work out well but my lingering question is if he will cheat again because they say "once a cheater always a cheater". Your advice is appreciated again 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽.
Signed,
Another Question
WISY's Advice:
Dear AQ,
So glad to hear things worked out for the best with that situation. I was really concerned, and I suggest you still get the restraining order so that you are protected and have certain rights should he try anything again.
On to the next or should I say...on to the ex! As far as that is concerned, I think it's really sweet that your ex still looks out for you and is there for you in this sort of way. That says a lot, in my opinion. I don't see the harm in exploring a relationship with him again if he has in fact grown psychologically. You need to be sure that you are over the hurt he caused you previously because it won't work if you continue to punish him for what he did (not saying you are, but want to bring that to your attention). Just be aware of any behaviors that suggest dishonesty on his part, and most importantly, do not tolerate it if you discover he hasn't changed. Just work on each other, be honest with one another, communicate, learn each other's love language. Take it slow and see what happens.
Feel free to write again with an update. 😊
Walk good,
#TeamWIsy
Dear WISY,
I'm not sure of your location and your level of access to quality healthcare, but there are drugs currently available that reduce the chances of transmitting HIV (I'm assuming you're referring to HIV. Please correct me if I'm wrong) from partner to partner. You and your partner should both visit a physician for the best possible healthcare advice. My knowledge is limited but I can say that you should always practice safe sex. Use dental dams for oral sex, use toys to pleasure each other without exchanging body fluids. If you can't, then abstain. As I said previously, my knowledge is limited, so please seek the advice of a professional.
