I am heartbroken because I found out my man is cheating on me. I found out by going through his phone records. His phone is on a family plan so I can see his activity. I called a number I saw him texting a lot. The girl told me that she has been talking to him for about three months, but she is not interested in him seriously because she has a man. She told me that he complains about me a lot. She said I should start f*cking him better so he can stay at home. I thought she was out of line when she said that. It was like throwing salt in the wound. I am beyond hurt and embarrassed!
He is the only man I've been with for the past ten years. It is possible that I have become "boring" to him. As crazy as this sounds, I am thinking I should talk to him about his complaints and try to make things better. I am very big on commitment and family. I think this is something we can overcome together.
What do you think I should do? Take into consideration the time we have been together.
Signed,
Cheated On
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WISY's Advice:
Dear CO,
What do I think you should do? I think you should tell him about your discoveries and give him 30 days to leave the house. I understand that commitment and family are important to you but are they important to him? From where I'm standing, it doesn't look that way. Ten years doesn't mean you should ignore his betrayal. He complains about you and he cheated on you. Instead of talking through his issues with you, he has chosen to tell this woman. It doesn't seem like he respects you either.
Time together means nothing if both people aren't on the same page. You should take that into consideration.
But in the end, only you know what you can live with.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Ma'am what were you looking for in his phone activity? Yes, a decade is a long time and ppl get bored. Your original plan of action is the best because 10 years is an investment and 1 indiscretion should not be enough to undo it all.
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ReplyDeleteKenneth FrancisMay 14, 2018 at 12:20 PM
ReplyDeleteI agree... a decade is not something that you can let go that easily. It's hard out here for us as men, then we not getting sexy or not feeling like a man in our home we tend to fill that manly void that we not getting at home. Keeping the family together is a big thing, so try and work it out at least one time