My child's father's side of the family has been giving me hell about the way I choose to raise my daughter. They are very religious, Christian people and attend church every Sunday and attend services during the week as well. I was not raised that way. I am spiritual and do not believe in the things they believe in. Because of this, they've disliked me since I met my child's father. They interfered so much in our relationship, that we broke up. They call me a heathen and say I am an unfit mother.
I am tempted to keep my child away from them because of the negative things they say about me. I don't want my child subjected to their behavior. My daughter is well loved and I do all that I can to provide her with things that will build a positive character within her. I don't want them drilling nonsense into my baby's head. I don't want her to adopt their ways.
Her father is silent in all of this. He prefers to stay out of conflict, and he visits her on a daily basis, but he does request for our daughter to visit his family once in a while. I don't know what to do. I've explained my reasons for thinking the way I do. Do you think I am wrong in this situation? Please help.
Signed,
Spiritual Mama
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WISY's Advice:Dear SM,
As long as you are teaching your daughter love and positivity, I see nothing wrong with wanting to keep her away from people who constantly spew negativity. However, even though these people degrade you so much, I don't think it's wise to keep your daughter from her family. Have a long, in depth conversation with your child's father and his family to set the ground rules and expectations for your daughter's visits. If you are satisfied, allow her the time to visit with her family. If you are met with contention, explain that your daughter will not visit until they refrain from their negative ways.
If they are true to their religion, they should not be speaking ill of anyone. Love should reign throughout the family. That, after all, is fundamental in Christianity. Maybe they need a reminder. 😉
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
If they are Christians they shouldn't be hateful but I feel like this lady is leaving some major stuff out of the story.
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