My boyfriend broke up with me last week because he thinks I am not motivated to become successful. I am taking a year off from school to relax and figure out what I really want to pursue. He keeps asking me why I need so long. I told him I just need a break after high school before going to college. I told him it's not uncommon for people to do that. He told me that I am lazy and he's not into unmotivated women. He told me he can't stay with me because I will make a bad impression on him. WISY, it's not like I don't work. I am working and saving my money, but he doesn't understand.
I really love him. We've been together since our sophomore year in high school. I am the one who got him to start taking school seriously because he's so smart. Now, he has the nerve to do me like this. Should I let him go or take his advice and enroll in school to make him happy?
Signed,
Taking a Break
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WISY's Advice:
Dear TAB,
You have to do what is best for you, not what your boyfriend thinks is best for you. If you need a break, take one. As long as you're focused on your goal, do what you must to make your journey better for you.
Your boyfriend's concerns are legitimate. You persuaded him to take school seriously in high school and he may fear that your choice to take a year off will influence him to lose focus in college. However, he could have dealt with this situation better. Let him do what he needs to do and you do what you need to do. You're at a point in your life where you'll encounter several cross roads. Always take the route which suits you best.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
She's way too young to be including him in her life decisions. This is one of those "If it's meant to be... It's meant to be" type of situation. She better do what she feels is right. He's showing her he doesn't really truly care anyway. Pay attention to the red flags.
ReplyDeleteLet me first say, do what is right for you! You feel strongly enough to voice that you would like to take off a year to figure out what you want to pursue. Start there.
ReplyDeleteAs for where you and this young man are concern I will say this. Anyone that you have motivated through their time of uncertainty, who is so quick to deem you as lazy and unmotivated may not need to be so closely tied to your life. I understand he may feel that your decision to take a year off may influence him negatively, and just like you, he has to do what’s right for him. This may allow you both to develope a stronger sense of self and not be so dependent on the other.