Dear WISY,
3 days ago my significant other and I had an issue.
I asked her if there was anything she
was hiding from me in her phone that would make me look at her differently. She said no, but I had a gut feeling that
something was off. I went to sleep to
try and sleep the feeling off, but still felt like something was wrong. So, I went out to the living room where she
followed me to ask what was wrong. I
told her I feel like you’re hiding something. She asked if she should go get her phone. I said yes. We got it and looked through some
of her threads. There was a picture of
her and her first child's father. The
way they looked in the picture made me feel uncomfortable. I told her I'd appreciate it if she didn't
take pics like that with people she has been with. She told me the picture was innocent but it
looks like something else. Now I’m being
called jealous, insecure and controlling?
What are your thoughts?
Signed,
Uncomfortable
WISY’s Response:
Dear Uncomfortable,
The picture you sent is very suggestive and
inappropriate. If I didn’t know any
better, I’d assume they were a couple – a happy couple at that. Sometimes people use emotionally degrading
words such as jealous, insecure and controlling to deflect their
wrongdoing. From where I stand, all I
can see is a man trying to protect his relationship.
On the other hand, she did offer up her phone to
you. If she thought there were any
pictures or messages in her phone that would jeopardize your relationship, I
don’t think she would be so willing. It
may all be harmless like she says, and she may not be clear on boundaries. That’s something to consider as well.
In any case, the picture is inappropriate. Her response should not have been to attack
your character. Instead, she should have
apologized and worked to dispel any doubt you may have.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Nice try. She gave him the phone hoping that he wouldn't find that photo. Now saying that he's jealous and controlling is just an effort to make him feel that he's making something out of nothing. Brother.... start using a condom with her just for your protection.
ReplyDeleteBruh, the gut never lies. The heart is weak and the head will rationalize but if she really had nothing to hide you should be able to surf her phone without supervision. Do you even know what to look for? Listen to your gut,she's deflecting.
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