I recently got out of a ten year relationship, and I am ready to start dating again. I am nervous, I don't know how to start over, and I am extremely insecure. During the course of my ten year relationship, I had two children, and my body is not the same as it used to be. I am nervous about allowing another man to see me naked.
My ex stopped complimenting me. He would always have sex with me after a few drinks, and he always made sure the lights were turned off. He would always compliment young, sexy women in front of me as well. He just tore my self esteem to pieces. I couldn't take it anymore and I left him.
I just want to feel hot again. Please help me regain some confidence. I will be checking back for your input.
Thank you in advance for your help!
Signed,
Insecure
WISY's Advice:
Dear Insecure,
I'm pretty sure you're being too hard on yourself, but my best advice for you is to slow it down and create a genuine connection with someone who will not place your sole value on your body. Become so mentally connected in your next relationship that the physical aspect is just icing on the cake. What a man will think of your naked body should not be your primary concern right now.
In the meantime, enroll in some activity which caters to you. Pamper yourself, get together with your friends, have some fun, and try to find yourself again. Revert back to the woman you were before your ex's words and actions tore you down. Understand that his opinion is not the gospel. Leave him in your past and continue on your journey to self love and acceptance.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
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