Last week my man came home from work really late. I noticed he didn't hug me and kiss me like he usually does; he went straight into the bathroom, saying he had a stomach ache. Anyway, he made me suspicious. The next night, the same thing happened. I told him to take some Pepto Bismol, but he refused. I was thinking to myself that he's hiding something. The next night, he stayed out saying he had to work late. I kept watching him to try and find evidence of cheating but I didn't see anything, I could only feel it. All that time, he was still asking me for sex. That made me kind of put cheating out of my mind. I know my husband and he doesn't have that much stamina.
Fast forward: I went to the doctor and I have chlamydia. I have never cheated on my husband, but it is obvious now that he is cheating on me. I don't know how to approach this without killing him! All I want to do is cut his d!ck off! And if he tries to lie I'm going lose it.
Please help me deal with this the best way. I'm crazy and I don't want jail time.
Signed,
LIVID!😡
Dear LIVID,
😠😠😠😠*counting to 10*....Okay, ready.
Honestly, it took a while for me to put my emotions aside and come up with an effective solution for this. It's difficult reading things like this. I am so glad that you recognized the potential loss of freedom if you were to act on emotion alone. Reaching out for advice shows your strength and control, and I want you to keep the control in this situation.
Your husband has made the decision to betray you. He's gone out night after night to be with someone else while you remained loyal to him. On top of that, he has made the choice to have unprotected sex with this dirty woman (or women), putting your health at risk. Your husband is obviously irresponsible and immature, and you need to decide if you want to work things out or leave.
Approach him with your test results, give him the opportunity to confess, and hear what he has to say. You have to decide what happens next. I haven't been a part of your marriage so I can't speak on what should happen. I don't know what you two hold in your hearts. I will, however, give my opinion. You are not obligated to follow my advice but here's what I think should happen:
I'm kidding.
Once these things happen, it's difficult to mend the relationship. You'll always be wondering if he's being truthful when he works extra hours or goes out with his friends. So, incorporate a little marriage counseling into your lives. If you feel satisfied with the progress, give it another chance. If you conclude that he is not willing to change, then leave and don't look back. Listen to Black-er: take the house and everything and run him! Next time, he may bring you something worse than chlamydia.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
wisy you're a fool for this one! lml!!
ReplyDeleteThis is what you will approach this... Tell him, "We have a big problem here. We have been together for 3 years before we got married and 3 years since. I have remained faithful. I never kissed, or slept with anyone else, male or female. I went to the doctor last week and he told me that I was HIV positive. That means that the young lady that you had an unprotected affair with, gave it to you. She may or may not know it, but please let her know that she's a murderer." That will shake him up. He may shit his pants. Don't tell him the truth until he gets tested and come back with the doctor's test results. That's what you do if you never cheated, but most likely you did but in your head, that time didn't count. You can still get that STD from giving a little blowjob or that kiss from the guy at work. You could also get it from that guy who used a condom when he had sex with you and you best friend at the same time with the same condom.
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