I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years, and we've been through all kinds of problems. I've caught him with my friend, I found text messages between him and some girl, and I heard him talking in his sleep about some other woman. I keep forgiving him because I truly love him, and I can't see myself with anyone else. I am nearing my breaking point because I decided to catfish him, and I communicate with him under the guise of someone else.
So far he has told me that he's single, and he has even suggested he come to see me (the fake profile). I set up a date that is scheduled for next week, and he's supposed to come see me at a hotel. I can't believe I'm seeing him cheat on me. He told me that he's going to visit his family next week (but I know he's really going to visit the girl I'm pretending to be).
Should I confront him about it or show up to the hotel to meet him and catch him in the act? I can't take this anymore.
Signed,
Fed Up
WISY's Response:
Dear Fed Up,
Whether you confront him or catch him (again), it won't change his behavior. What you should be more concerned about is what you're going to do different this time. I know you love him, but does he love you? If he can continue to hurt and disrespect you, does he truly love you? Think about that for a bit.
Stop selling yourself short. He is not interested in being in a monogamous relationship with you. It's time you accept that and move on. Like I tell other ladies in similar situations, it won't be easy, but it will get better with time. You owe it to yourself to be involved with someone who will value your relationship and not continuously put it at risk. Speaking of risks, you're also putting your health at risk by be being involved with someone who sleeps around. Get tested.
I hope you find the strength to move on.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Love yourself first Baby Girl, and he doesn't Love you at all. You know this very well, he's been showing you that for 10 year's.I would show up & end that non-existent whatever you wanna call it
ReplyDeleteStop lying to yourself. You don't really love him that much. You either really love the sex or just not sexy enough lack the confidence to get another man. On the other situation, I would follow through and meet him.....but what are you gonna do when he gets there? I don't think you're going to break up with him. So here's an idea. Tell him you need for him to show up with no underwear or some panties. Make him bring handcuffs and tell him to shave his whole body. Tell him you hate pubic hair, chest hair, back hair, facial hair. Give him a list of things to do, so when he gets there he can't deny his intentions. Embarrass him, then laugh at him when he shows up bald, shaved and wearing a thong.
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