To Swing or not to Swing?

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Dear WISY,

I have a question and I don't know any of my friends who would be open to this so I'm asking you and your readers.

My man asked me to join a swinger's club so that we can keep things exciting between us.  He told me that he'd rather do this than cheat on me and I appreciate that but I really don't want to join a club and see him have sex with another woman.  I love him deeply and I don't want any other woman having him.  I am also uncomfortable letting him see any other man with me.  I don't think that a committed couple should ever sway from each other.  

I am partly to blame for this because in the beginning of our relationship, he told me he was into this and I told him I was down for it too but I lied because I didn't want him to lose interest.

I feel like I'm in between a rock and a hard place because I know he's getting bored with our sex life and may cheat if I tell him I don't want to join the club.  Do you think I should try it once and see how it goes?  What if I don't like it and he loves it?  

Signed,
Not Really Down

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WISY's Response:

Dear NRD,

GIRL! If you felt like you had to lie about your freak levels to get a guy interested then you should've known from the start that he wasn't the one for you. 

You have to tell him how you feel and confess what you just confessed to me.  Hopefully, his love and commitment to you will keep him from desiring a variety of culo.  If not, then I think you've learned a valuable lesson here.

If you are swayed to enter the playground and try the swings, make sure you have an in depth conversation with him first and express your insecurities.  Be clear as to what you will and won't do.  No more telling him what you think he wants to hear.

I don't know how far you've gone in the bedroom but if you haven't done so already, a little role play can give the illusion of someone different.  If you're willing to fully commit and stay in character, I think this could be a successful option for you.

Walk good,
#TeamWISY