Dear WISY,
I have a confession that I have been in love with my best
friend but she is not just my bestie, she is actually my lover. This has been burdening my spirit for ten
years now. It started when I was in high
school and the situation helped me at a time when I felt alone. She encouraged me to get through high school
without feeling depressed and we went to the same college where we began to
live together and things really got serious there. I want to marry her.
Now, I’m independent and hold my own job, pay my own bills
and I think it’s time to confess but I am still afraid and don’t know how to do
this. Please help me. I will give you some more of my family
background so you know the type of people I am dealing with.
My father is pastor and my mother agrees with everything he
says. My siblings all have prestigious
professions or have settled down and started a family. Now, that I’m out of school, they’re all
looking at me wondering why I haven’t brought a man home yet. They don’t know how many times, the person I
want to start a life with has eaten at our dinner table and spent the night in
our house giving me the love I need to get through my days.
I also owe it to her to be open about us. Her family already knows and has accepted
us. I just need to get mine on board.
Signed,
Ready to Tell
Dear RTT,
Find the courage and strength you need from your own
words. Focus on the words that will
empower you in this situation. What
you’ve described is a story of overcoming emotional strife, fueled by encouragement and love in order to succeed and lead an independent life where you can feel free to be your true self with
the one you truly love.
You’ve already overcome so much. I believe you have it in you to do this. Think of it as your last task until complete
freedom. Think of how this “has been
burdening your spirit” and the relief you’ll feel when you finally let go of
it. I don’t have the perfect answer for
telling your family but I know it's necessary to do it and like folks say, "there's no time like the present".
If your family happens to turn their back on you (which I doubt they all will), you still have your major support system by your side. In time, I believe it will be well with all of you. It's important in life to live your truth unapologetically. Start now.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
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