Scarred

Dear WISY,

When I was a small child I was trapped in my burning house.  I now have burn scars on my arms and neck.  Because of the scars, I can't find anyone to love me.  I'm now 24 years old and my parents are asking why I haven't brought a man home to them yet.  I see all my sisters and cousins are married and no man has ever approached me.  

I am very depressed about my situation and I have thought about going to America for some surgeries I heard about that can help my appearance.  I have been raising the money on my own to pay for travel expenses and medical costs.  Nobody knows my plans but I will tell them the day of my departure.

I am making progress but I am feeling guilty about how I am getting the money.  I am going to tell you this with the confidence that you will keep me completely anonymous.  I have been getting the money by selling my body and I know this isn't right.  Through this I met a man who would like to see me outside of our business transactions.  I am not attracted to him but he would take the shame away from me.

Do you think I should date him?  I think I should have him because I might not have this opportunity again.  Please tell me what you think I should do.

Signed,

Scarred

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WISY's Response:

Dear Scarred,

What you went through as a child was very traumatic and from what you are telling me, you have yet to heal the internal wounds the fire caused.  Selling your body is a clear indicator of that.

Stop selling your body and use the money you have earned to pay for therapy sessions.  I believe that beginning the healing process will help you to feel more beautiful and in turn you will attract the right man for you.

Which brings me to my next point, I'm not sure you should date a man who has paid you for your body.  That's not the type of foundation you want to set in a relationship.  Take your time, you're only 24 years old.  You have plenty of time to heal and find the man that's right for you.

At this point, surgery is not the answer to your issues.  I wish you success on your journey to happiness.

Walk good,

#TeamWISY