He Wants Me to Leave My Husband

Dear WISY,

I would like to confess that my husband is not satisfying me where the sex is concerned.  He satisfies my shopping addiction and also my obsession with travel but he is no good when it comes to putting a good session down in the bedroom.  I know this isn't right but I need somebody to touch me in a way that my husband can't and I found someone.  We've been seeing each other for two years now.

This other guy is now asking me to leave my husband but he cannot satisfy me in the other ways that my husband does.  He can barely pay his rent and I've given him money for all sorts of things, including a new mattress and sheets because I couldn't lie down on what he had before.  I bought a new couch for his mother and I even helped him pay his child support.  I do all of this for him because he does what he does for me so well.  I think it's fair.

Anyway, back to the problem.  This man is crying and threatening to tell my husband about us if I don't do it first.  Instead of sex, he wants to talk about our future and he sobs like a baby.  He loves me and wants me to move in with him and help him gain custody of his child.  He says I motivate him to be a better person.  I'm touched by his words but I can't leave my life to be with him just for good sex!  I enjoy my work free life too much!

What should I do?  My husband CANNOT know about this and this man seems hellbent on telling him.

Signed,
I Need Satisfaction

(This is NOT a photo of the Sender's love interest)

WISY's Response:

Dear INS,

Why didn't you talk with your husband about your dissatisfaction in the bedroom?  Don't you think that should've been your first step rather than looking elsewhere?  And now, that you have committed one wrong, how did you conclude that it was alright to use your husband's money to care for this man?

This is what you need to do - Tell your boy toy that you will no longer see him and then go tell your husband that you've been spending his money on a man who is satisfying you in a way that he can't.  You should just go ahead and pack your bags now and go somewhere and really reflect on how you took advantage of your husband; a man who provides for you, gives you the luxury of not working for anyone and gives you the opportunity to see the world.  Reflect on how you had all of that and may not have it anymore.

Maybe your husband can forgive you or maybe he won't or maybe you can go stay with boy toy or maybe he won't want you when he realizes your hubby is no longer around to pay for his shortcomings.

Keep us posted! :-)

Walk good,
#TeamWISY